THE CHINA MAIL, MAY 14, 1937.
HOW TO MANAGE YOUR RELATIONS!
HE young wife's mother-in-law offers the most frequent source of trouble, then her own mother.
Next in frequency comes the baby's grandfather who lives with his daughter, brothers and living in the house, or latives who live near
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If grandmother's advice on feeding differs with that of the doctor's, there is no choice between them. Listen to the doctor.
sister CO-OPERATION NECESSARY
thried re-
mother.
If two families live together, what the mother does and what her relatives think she should do pro vide a constant source of irrita- tion.
From all that one can gather, no one is ever quite satisfied with the way a-mother rears her child. If she
is severe, if she is lax, if she is too concerned, or too unconcerned, she always comes in for criticism, of which she is usually only too well awaré.
When grandmother says, “I d.
Dress Hints For The Not-So-Slim
it this way," remind her politely bulged with letters demanding back and front
UST lately, our postbag has "Necks should be cut high both that the chances are her mother
low V necks are
didn't
Mentio
fashion hints for the woman who is bad. tactfully that each
approve, either!
mother is en-not-so-slim-as-she-used-to-be. titled to rear her child
"Pleats are good, in the skirts of as she thinks best, and if she maes mis-
"It's all very well to suggest at-day frocks. tractive styles for our slim sisters," takes, she can blame no one bu
complained one reader. **What "Colours: Navy, black, brown, herself.
about the large woman or the mid-blue, wine, and their near re-
In addition, there is no possibility of a child being reared successfully when parents and relations do not pull together.
The child must always feel that all the adults are of the same mind. If his mother says what he does is wrong, grandmother, father, aunts So the first rule of getting along and unles must also consider it
-- CAN'T PLEASE THEM
with relations is to know and re- cognise the plain fact that one can't please them.
When you've accustomed your self to that idea, you'll be able to go head and please the person who CAN be pleased, yourself.
wrong.
The child must sense no adult opposition to his mother; other- wise, he cannot respect her wishes or commands. His training musi be consistent from day to day, from week to week or it seems of no moment.
A mother has only to remember TALK THINGS OVER this fact and one other. Her duty
dumpy woman? Must she look lations are safest, but bright, light
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dowdy or ridiculous?"
colours will not necessarily make you look ‘dumpy' if the cut is good.
Soap Saver
"Certainly. not,” said outsizë ex- pert Olive Scott. "She can, of course, be smart and look much slimmer than she really is if she avoids using very shiny materials, i and any effect which is broadeninguse may easily be made from part
such as hoop-lines round the figure.
"She should use soft, adaptable materials, see that her armholes are cut right up under the arm and that her skirts do not "clip' under her hips.
"There should be no waist seams because the dress should be design-.
belt.
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is not to her relations. Her duty is Talk these things over with first and foremost to her child.grandmother calmly. Don't snatched to be worn with or without a
She has the duty of rearing her the child from her as if a moment. children rightly, according to the in her company would contaminate best information and knowledge him. Young mothers are guilty of she can collect. If she fulfils that that, too, but keep in mind that a duty, she need worry about no one child's mother is his chief guide or nothing.
DIFFERING OPINIONS
and trainer.
"Sleeves and necklines should be soft: hip lines severe, never fussy
Clever draping and gathers on bust (provided they come from the the bodice take away from the
shoulder).
Other adults can help, without assuming the chief responsibility, by taking things over and exchang- I've been reading letters from ng opinions. But not even the "As a rule, the top part of the mothers
closest relation has a right to dic-arm should be covered, so capes, for more than twelve years. During all that time the tate the way a mother should feed long sleeves and half-sleeves are thing that worries mothers most is or train or discipline her child. good. Trimmings should be worn on that parents and relatives never Those duties are hers alone, and a cape, at the shoulder or at the think as they do. It can't be expect-hers they must remain.
ed.
Grandmother reared her flock ac- cording to the best she knew in her
She obtained her knowledge about children from her mother, married friends and relatives. THIS COMPLEX WORLD
Savoury Soup Balls
day. She has nothing to be asham Put into a bowl half a pound of ed of. The body of scientific in-four, a teaspoonful of baking pow- formation about infant diet, care der, half a teaspoonful of salt; a and training was not available in saltspoonful of pepper, a dessert- her day.
spoonful of finely chopped parsley, half a finely grated onion, and four ounces of finely chopped
suet. Mix together well and add a little cold water to make a stiff paste. Divide into balls with floured hands (small balls should be made, as they awell) and roll in flour. They should be cooked for an hour, and can be dropped into soup or stew, which should not be allowed to go off the boil when the balls are put in. Or they can be cooked in boiling milk, to make an appetis- ing supper dish..
There are vast changes in social structure these days.
We can't use the same training we once used, because we are rear- ing children to take their places in a world so changed that it was in- conceivable even thirty years ago. BE PATIENT BUT FIRM
It behoves a mother to see all this clearly. She feed nót. anta- gonise a grandparent by telling her she knows nothing. She may know
Apple Batter Pudding
a great deal about how to handle Blend three ounces of flour with children which her daughter or daughter-in-law would do well to imitate.
She has learned tolerance and acquired wisdom in the hard school of experience. Her ideas should not be sneered at simply because of her age.
a pint of milk and for at least an
good pinch ofve to stand
Then add a two ounces of castor sugar, a tablespoonful of melted butter, and half a grated nutmeg. Whisk three eggs and beat in quickly to the batter. In a but-" tered pie-dish put, a pound and a BUT when the advice of a grand- half of sliced apples, pour the mother, relative, or friend is op- batter over, and bake in a fairly posed to that of all present-day hot oven for nearly an hour. A authorities, a mother can listen handful of seedless raisins may be respectfully but go her own" way added with
the apples to make a placidly,
change.
throat.
seam.
A handy soap-saver for bathroom
of a loofah. From one end of a new loofah cut off a piece about three or four inches long. After
rinsed, and dried make a deep slit well soaked, this piece has been
an inch or so. along one side for Then seam the cut end of the piece neatly over with tape and make a hanging loop at one end of the
that are too small for ordinary use Odds and ends of toilet soap
may then be slipped into the centre of the loofah through the alit in the side. An excellent lather may be made by swishing the loofah about in hot water in the bath or wash-basin, and scraps of soap that might otherwise choke the waste
followed by drying in the open-air, pipe are used up economically. An occasional rinse in hot salt-water,
will keep the loofah clean and in good condition.
A boy who stowed away in a ship which did not sail and swallowed a razor blade and nails when hungry, was successfully operated upon in Blyth, Northumberland, Hospital.
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