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Saturday
HONGKONG TELEGRAPH
December 17, 1938.
Oh! Mummy I never did.
SUCH A
LITTLE LIAR "
"JOHN, you're a terrible little liar!"
Have you ever heard that phrase before? Prob- ably it was said by your parents; how you snap it at your own children. If you do, you are doing them a lot of harm.
"Ridiculous!" you protests, "I love my boy. more than anything in the world, yet he lies to me whom he can trust absolutely."
What are the facts? When your little Johnny tells you he has seen
a black-spotted cow in the street, he is not really lying.
Lie is the wrong word for a child's untruths; fantasy is hearer the
mark.
Don't get too worried about your
little boy's moral shortcomings. On Let Them Invent
Unc contrary. Your child's "es"
should be an SOS
for yoil. And
your first reaction should be to look
E most frightening thing
for most parents is the
for the reuson of your child's "es" child who, out of the blue, invents
in your own personality.
To look for the "why" in a child's
"lie" is the only way to cure it.
May Be Fear
A out of
Br
* Reme
of
CHILD may He out of fear
inferiority. Oftra enough she in smacked for it. Yet when a child
the mast incredible stories: ---
"I saw house burning, mother: I heard the screams of the people; there was a huge crowit
and
No on
The wheres and whens and how of the parents who alm with cruel
nie to prove to the child what terrible titthe tips it is leave it with sense of guilt and moral inferiority. This harmtess fantasy-weaving
lica out of fear the parents have cannot be eared because it needs n
carned the punishment, not the child.
cure. If you react at all to it, you with sympathy, Pretend "My litle girl lies to me over the must react most ridiculous things," a desperate to believe it, Help to spin the fan- mother said the other day. "I saw tasy to an end that will satisfy yar her digging in a bed of our gurden, child's hungry imagination.
"But a child must be acquainted She made quite a good job of it. When I asked her later about it, she with realities. It can't go on living intly dented that she had been in a world of dream and fantasy for
Kay Quite true, Bul
digging at all. And yet I have ever," you may life will teach it nover punished her."
realities soon enough. A child has
This young mother had the une the right to its dreamland, and no happy habit of rubbing it in adult should interfere with it un- Whatever the little girl was doing necessarily.
she was always being told: "I say. Pat, be careful. Remember fast time you cut your anger!" Or: Re- member last time you trampled on my strawberry bed."
Naturally, the child was so fright- ened of being perpetually reminded, frat of sins, then of danger, that she preferred her mother not to know her nelivities.
Fear in a child is not always chused by corporat punishment: mental punishment is just as bad.
Don't blame the child who Bes out of fear. because 41 child is naturally fearless: blame yourself. Child's Eye View.
Now
JOW for the Bes caused by the child's natural sense
of its Inferiority.
Just imagine what our world aust look like to a child. We are so much bigger and stronger, so power- ful and so authoritative that the child must lank for means to balance the great difference.
lie.
And the child's weapon s the
It may want to impress yniu, to excite sympathy, or just expresa un- conscious wishes.
It is up to you that these fantasies, harmless and childish, don't grow into real Hes.
It is no use getting angry when your little boy tries to tell you that he is the class's best cricketer, while you know perfectly well that be is not even mediocre.
Sneer at him and call him a liar and you have lost his confidence for good. But try to make him a really good cricketer, or to evoke his in- terest in a game for which he shows more talent, and the boy will forget to lie because there is no more any necesalty.
Beware Of This
IT is much more diftult to
deal with the le that comes from lack of sympathy. The fact that the child has obviously Jacked your sympathy in many in stances (otherwise he wouldn't play up to get it) does not justify your petting and pitying him, in a case which is obviously staged,
But the e' must-bon" warning signpost to you, polniting to your child's need of more. Aympathy and perhaps more demonstrative love...
The child's leth but a rise to cheat you out of what it could - not get in a normal way,
n
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A
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Beauty Box
EEP a few pipe cleaners
in your beauty bur. You will And they give a flué finish to your make-
up.
Use one to take off super- fluous powder from your eyelashes, nostrils and the cornera of eyes and mouth. If the point seems a little sharp, bend the pipe cleaner in half and tae the folded end.
One held behind the eye- lasher while you mascard them will help to prevent the eyelids geiting marked. If the brush does slip, a slightly damped pipe cleaner will quickly remove all traces of the accident, with- out disturbing the rest of pour make-up,
If you occasionally put a tinn spot of rouge at the corners of your eyes that can also be applied with a pipe cleaner,
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HELPFUL HINTS
USEFUL holder for wooden spoons, knives, und vegetable peelers may be made from an old pipe-mack that can be enamelled to match the colour scheme of the ite Zhen
To make an excellent clothes drier that can be suspended from a line, fake two crdinary coat hangers and bure Ave holes at--equal distances opart in each one. Then insert a whlte enemelled curtain rod in each hole, and it is ready for use.
After Atting a clean cretonne cover to a chair, stuff a roll of newspaper between the back and seat, for it will help to keep the cover in position.
To clean windows in the shortest time, wipe them over with a chamois leather wrung out of water contain- ing two tablespoonfuls of methylated spirit to every pint of water, for then no further polishing is required.
Budly discoloured silver articles are best cleaned with salt molstened with vinegar before being polished in the ordinary way.
Wine stains can usually be re- moved from linen by holding the affected part in a little balling milk, before washing out with soap and water. Salt and lemon juice will be found effective for obstinate marks.
Serge and other dark cloths may be ricaned with a liquid made by rating a potato into half a plut of cold water, and straining before using.
To remove grease marks from a velvet coat-collar, sponge Tightly with equal parts of hot water and liquid ammonia, It the nup is crushed, hold the collar before a steaming kettle and brush with a clean stiff-bristled brush.
If the backs and arms of up- holstered chnics require cleaning, pour a Hiile carbon tetrachloride into a saucer, dip a clean nailbrush into It, and brush lightly over the soiled surface.
A bicycle pump may be used for removing dust from awkward cor- ners and spring mattresses. Wipe up the dust afterwards with a cloth moistened in paramu.
When tea towels become worn and thin, it is a good idea to stitch them together for they will make soft polishing dusters.
The
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of IL tooth-brush considerably lengthened if soaked for 24 hours in a glass of water cuntain- Ing teaspoonful of salt. Rinse nfler- wards in cold water, when elb particles of tooth paste or powder will have been removed, leaving the
bristles much firmer.
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