WHAT
SHE REALLY
WORRIES ABOUT
THE CHINA MAIL, THURSDAY, OCTOBER 12, 1961.
WOMANSENSE
WH
WHAT are the basic problems of 1961's wife and mother? I asked you. And you told me, leaving no doubts, tearing open the glossy surface of modern life, probing the trends only previously hinted at by sociolo- gists, and crystallising in penetrating, some times brilliant letters, modein woman's funda- mental feelings.
All sociologists, politicians, economists and psychologists, please look this way, for modern wonum's basic problem in 1961 is no trivial one...
Her thoughts, her feelings and her fears are directed towards one end; the search for a new set of moral standards to stabilise her family in an unstable. work.
Far and away the biggest vote for problem num- ber one was the provision of a stable home life.
She has gone far beyond the wish to keep up with the Joneses, even if her children have not, and now fears the naterialistic pressures and false values that surround her.
She wishes, above all else, to re- establish the value of the home and her diminishing status at the centre of it.
LADYLUCK-
YOUR CHINA MAIL HOROSCOPE
THURSDAY, OCTOBER 12
VIRGO
AQUARIUS OLE (January 21- February 1: The person you suspeel of having done you an injury will make
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full confession and expres deep regret. PISCES 49 (February 26- March 201: Your observa an unhuppy rela
htt may
tion of tionship
valuable lesson for you. ARIES (7) (March 23-April 19); You can best thwart di domineering
relative by quietly continuing ti
Ko your own way. TAURUS 02 (April 20-May
201 is worth taking ealculated risk to put an
original idea of yours to the test. GEMINI ( (May 21-dun
21: Although you may he reasonably sure of your job, don't relax your efforts to produce the best possible results.
CANCER (10) (June 22-Juły 21): A hunch of yours may remunerative. prove very and don't let #sceptical friend disseade you from following it.
LEO July 22-August
21: If you continue to pursue your present high aims, you cannot help succeed where others have. Called.
I
but
JACOBY on BRIDGE.
you can keep from look- ing ut the East and West houds do so. Then plan your play at four spades against tite
clog of diamonds opening.
YOU Follow suit to the Arst diaimund and Trunw the dia- mond continuations. Right here is where you have a chance Vi make a careless mistake. You
must trump with a hipis spade, not the tree spot.
Now, if you are at average Roxi player, you will have no
trouble making six since every-
NOT HUSBANDS,
NOT SEX,
NOT MONEY,
BUT HOME
by Maureen Owen
their
whole history.
Even All de-
when the effort ot
says Mra Dorle. of Chichester, And in the search for a satis- fying code many mothers un-
miss the consciously
teaching und
But how to do li? Ah, thai Is fences are down and marriage taking a job seems worthwhile and authority of a strong
Tour problem.
Goddesses
SE
my
vigorous church.
Influences
MIXED with purely specific educational problems are
the difficulties of child upbring- Ing.
our
1x no longer the most protected there are doubts. Says Mra Industry. Το have enough
Weller, of Kingston-on-Thames: physical mental and emotional "As a woriting mother with stugina
to satisfy her family substantial salary am able in on the one side and to maintain husband and daughter suffer no
provide any exirus, and CEEN ឆ! 10: worsi, Mrs. the career to help pay for the Incanvenience through my job. Shelagh Voillernin. of comforts of the materialistic But I cannot help wondering if Belmont Park, puls It like
We must be bydrae on the other" is how she the material gain will ever make
puts it. kix-armed goddesses
what I am up for
depriving Mrs Salaman, of Ashtead, Sur- thirty-six-bour day at The specifle problem that out them of."
rey, puts the problem like this: numbered all others-whether "We are living,”. says Mrs "How do we shelter running a home-bothers or not to combine a job with Joan Musset, of Haywards children from dangerous In- for Heath, "in a status-cmzed world uences and at the same time more woinen than the one in in which the once envied post- help them become integrated five of the married who already work,
population tion of wife and mother moves human beings, resilient and
lo bottom place."
Lough enough to withstand "When we acquire some new modern conditions, yet retaining **Today
firms make luxury," says Mrs Farnham, of kind and loving hearts?" women's work so attractive plus London, N.W.2, "we no longer wages that wives cannot afford
"Life seems want it because it was only a to ignore the back-to-work plea.
geared to the it would seem
fill Our general grabbers," says Mrs. Sansom of a pity, even symbol to
sense of something wasteful," says Mrs
lacking in Camberwell Grove. Harding- ham of Farnham.
ourselves. If wives and mothers are discontented
"Perhaps I should It is because Mrs Heather Godley, Twickenham puts it like this:
their families look to them for Today's mother is torn between have lost it."
the meaning in life and they the spiritually rewarding ties of family and the material attrac- "Religion has been torn can't win." tions of going out to work. She shreds
nothing to
thi headed (August 22ur cisposal.
with September 22); A journey
The mother of today finds may have to be postponed, but you could find equal herself with the duty of dealing satisfaction in un alterna-ngle handed with children's mental and physical welfare, of tive plan.
being n. pretty
and desirable companion to her husband and (8) (September 23 of keeping her mind awake to BRA October 22: Grim de-
the outside world. termination could help you
"Standards are higher and who may there is even some contempt in to pass a rival have
better the been
much
air Jor those who do not equipped at the start.
combine all this with a port SCORPIO
(3) October Novembre 25: Dan't let a sudden change of mund to-
Mirs Mary Perkins, of Fins- wards a collengue spoil hitherto pleasant working are really at the worst stage in buy Park, thinks that "women relationship.
!
SAGITTARIUS 12) (Novom- ber 22-December 21: You may soon have a chance to aremulate yone extra money, and should stick to your resolve
to pul aside.
it
CAPRICORN (11) (December
22 January 201:
You may be startled by the change you find in an old friend visiting from abrond. YOUR LUCKY NUMBER:
first nume and add the total
time job. And if we achieve all this we are haunted by the fear of neglecting some aspect.”
Shoe styles
days
the
London.
ROUNDED toes step-
ped into fashion
Count the letters in your here at a "Spring in to the number shown in your feet" presentation brackets after your sign of by the British Footwear the Zodiac. This i
yourManufacturers Associa- lucky number for the week.
tion.
NORTH
21
J34
653
JE
97832
YEST
452
1084
◆ AK1083
$20
EAST 470
❤Q72
◆ Q9542
101
SOUTH (1)
AARQ2009
MAJI
+7
AKJ
Both vulnerable
South West North Eart
24
34
Post
Pos ZN.T. Pass
Pass 14 Pass Pars
Opening lead—◆ K
Points
next
off are spring's toes and heels, but that does not mean a turn to the old "pre-point" fashion.
re-
Tee caps
are sill fat and elongated, but either very round, oval ur almond-shaped.
The narrow square still sur- vives and the oblique or us- symetrie toe provide B varia- tion for casual styles,
Gone
Gone are the
lethal stiletto
heels which for 50 long
wrought havoc pollshed floora
on carpets. and their
n
lower heel-two to
leur the three of inumpswearers' ankles. finesse, drop East's queen of Now,
thing is going to break nicely, dumany's eight, take a club
You start by cashing a high
trump and a high club. Then Piulas, return to dummy with two-and-a-half inches is Ident
♥*CARD Serises.
Q-The bidding has been:
South West Pass
North
14
Eart
Pass
Double Pass
You, South, hold:
2 ▼
AZ WIES Q10765432
What do you do?
A-Did four diamonds. You have a good diamond suit and your partner has shown » vory big hand.
TODAY'S QUESTION Your partner continues with #bid of four apudes. What do you do?
Answer Tomorrow
the jock af spades; discard either fluted, squared, or your we losing heurts on dum angular ares out to a wider, ny's last two clubs and make steadier. base.
six.
women
if you are a great expert or The opinion of one have suspected something un- on this subject came from the usual due to the second para-elegant Italian-born Mrs Feier graph, you will probably come Thurneycroft, fashlon co-ordina- Arund to this same line of tor to the Fashion House Group play but only after a lot of of London, and wife of study.
Minister of Aviation.
You will worry About bad trump breaks and bad club breaks and will trok around to see if there is any safety play to Insure your contract against them. When you find that there is none, you will come around to the simple play which gives best chance to make
you the
six.
Rupert and the Secret Path--38
Rupert watches anxiously as his pał desceruly slowly, and "is just going to follow when an idea strikes him.SE that man does catch us he'll discover the upper space then he'll And the sitchel of precious powder that Dingo has invented." he thinks.
"I'd better take it and if we're caught perhaps I can drop it into hiding." Creeping very gently back he lifts the intehel, pute the strap over his shoulder and renina is silence. Bingo is still making his way down as carefully and silently as he can. ALL RIGHTS RESERVIN
the
Opening the presentation, she said "I am personally glad the stiletto heel is cut.
"I think the lower two-and- a-half inch heel is infinitely more becoming to women.
carpets
up I shall find, feels which will bring damage to arki
floor covering minimum".
Charleston
10
Vanishing, too, are the long- popular bows and ribbons. In their place
the Instep afreos and bars reminiscent of The 1920's and the Charleston
era.
Bright colours
most
of
put In
teach my
child to go for what he wants. Will it beneft him morally or materially to stay on at school and work hard, or would he be ta better off watching the clock?" and debunited with Fears of nuclear HTT are its place." linked with fears that teenagers will no longer think hard work justified.
"Reilising
that we are all lving on top of a volcano,"
Mr Valerie Ranzella, of Essex, "is a mother justled in the deception chlidren that hard work Ja worthwhile?"
go back to
of the Charleston
This autumn's boots and shoes, heel and to and sole
At the top, Saxone's ankle- boot in red leather, wool lined, with the new non-slip composition
sole; behind it Jourdan's suede boot with a small stacked heel, which is
worn with
Colton and mohair socks. Rayne's most popular evening sl:oe, in
gold
nylum mēsli, is square toed, edged
and bowed with gold kid, and beside it, his daytime ahoe in red Celtic call. Ceine trimmed with
black potent Luxury shoe in olive green Lizzigator, next,
has square toe, squared-off high keel.
Then two Italian shoes from Abbotix both in
antigued leather, one rather sporting with square toe, stocked heel, the other round toed and strapped.
At the bottom, Jourdan's flar casual in
greenish brown suede, and
autumn look in wine-coloured patent, trimmed with a delicate satin bow, Prices tauge from 391. "ild. to 15 gut.
Sketch by Edser
says
*JARDIN D'ACCLIMATATION
part of the
Dior autumn-winter 1961 collection, recently shown in Paris. It is described as a typical new style beige high-waisted coat, widening down~ wards in a conical shape, with long narrow "glove" sleeves. It is topped by a loose-fitting cap.
Mra Greenaway wins our first prize of £20.
Indeed. we rother fear that we may be tempted away uur- selves from home altogether,
For a touch of cynical humour Mrs Anne Brangwyn, of Lon- Mrs S. Westley wins £5 and don, S.W.0, puts our problems says: "The modern matriarch
of telling her Summing up
at their best and says: "This is no doubt worried out of her is a wonderful world, and home tiny mind by (1) how to keep Is the most wonderful thing in desirable for hubby while run- it."
ning the home efficiently; (2) how to keep up the instalments on the fridge, washing machine, etc., etc; (3) how not to. be-
of the child- BUT the Anal heart-searching square in front
ren; (4) how soon can I park must be resolved, and Mrs the children On the lighter side, I was
so f to go out. Joan Greenaway much tempted in my final selec- S.W.6, sums up
of London, to work in order to pay for our problems the down payments tion by the entrants
who still this way.
on tape think that things like "Rood,"
recorder, stereo-record player, "untidiness" and "good mui-
To maintain (and tench etc.; (5) how to get some ners" are basic probleme.
her children) spiritual values kaggage labels from Majorca, in this age of the Status Symbol, so that the neighbours won't 2-To achieve fulfilment in know we've been' to Devon."
of life.
mothers
And ing who own. are the
"A corps of mothers helps would solve most miseries" mys wife and motherhood after hav-
ne hard-pressed mother,
enjoyed a career of her Perhaps these krow no basle fears
3-To enjoy mental and so- ones who have found the secret cial recreation while the children
are very young. Women
all the are harried
4-To avoid sacrificing A time by the magazine culture Blable and of "look younger, dress more to temporary material
secure home life advan- martly, or cook more divinely," tages. and strangely, marriage worries, 5-To be "with it with her fear of divorce or keeping one's rapidly maturing teenagers husband are hardly mentioned while maintaining "old- ot all.
fashioned" idents.,
Mra Shelagh Volllernin, whose letter was quoted carlier, wins our further 5 prize and adda: "I could write a book on this subject if I wasn't 50 busy looking after my three under-sevens, teaching in even- ing classes and trying to lose a persistent two inches from hips.
my
"P.S-I am very happy the same.".
alt
And so say all of us.
CHILDREN'S CORNER
Knarf's Animal Rides
-A Dachshund Is His Cab, A Duck His Ferry-
By MAX TRELL
Hanid walked to the park. wondering to herself about the
KNARF and fanid, the sha- strooge taxicab her brother had A dow
Children with the found, Turned-About Names, saw that As for Knarf, the toxicati ran it was a sunny day, so they with him around the corner and
decided to go to the park. May out of sight.
remind you that there is noth ing so picasant on a sunny day as to go to the park!
A few minutes later, they were standing on the pavement out alde the front of their house, It was Knarf who had stopped, tantd had wanted to go un.
"Knarf," she said, "what are you waiting for?"
Waiting for taxi
"I'm waiting for a laxicab," saft Knart.
Taxicabi" exclaimed land. "Aren't you going to walk to the park?"
"Of course not," said Knarf. "Why should 1 walk to the park when I can take a laxicab!"
"But you can't take a taxi- cab," said Hanid. "You haven't HOT money, And besides, no taxicabs ever come down" this Alreet."
While anli Wes talking. | Kart had gradually made him
| self smaller and smaller. Finally
he was the size of a pin.
Dachshund cab
·
Edge of pond
Hand didn't see Knarf again until she reached the park. There he was, standing at the edge of the pool,
"Do you see that illy leaf out there?" asked Knarf.
ly leaf
Hanid looked. The was about len or 15 feet from the edge of the bank,
That's my private island," said Knärf,
"You called for a ferry boat, air?" the Dack asked KnarË,
"Come Haniti. head.
along." he invited But Hanid shook her
From the edge of the bank, sald Hanid
watched Knerf get off the Duck's back and step on hils green leaf island.
"It's not An island." Bunld, "it's only a leaf."
"It's my island and I'm going there," said Knorf.
"You'll have to swim," Hanld.
•
Duck Farry boot
Gold
"Now I'm going for an nie- plano ride," he called back.
Hand couldn't speak for sur- prize. An airplane ride!. Where wes Knart going to get an air-
"Oh no," said Knarf. "I'll take plano? a ferry boal,"
Knnet wiistled several times, was a humming in the air, A She soon found out. There
"A ferry boat?" Hanld sald Dragonfly with beautiful binck to herself, "llow enn he lake a and silver wings alighted on the ferry boat? There aren't any Bly lent. ferry boals on this pond. Knarf
Is going to have to swim."
The
"Your airplane la ready," she will contrast of dominance by the long point of lightweight boots which with the post winter's darker od Italian style.
heard the Dragonfly say, "Step shades.
make their appearance in molt
Hanid slopped short. She board" The line is long, silm with a leather with rubber Roins.
Ifanid looked. A long brown could hardly believe her eyes
next Recond Knarf A new fenture from the cot Dechahund came running along or her ears, Bar at that instant, whizzed out of sight, Blues, rede and clear sharp slightly squared or almond toc.
Hauld greens will have more attention
tinent interlacing or mosh la
of the park Ducks enme just sat down on n-park bench. than usual,
incorporated in summer shoes the terrace and stopped in front one
of Knnef.
paddling to to Knarf and said: Sho didn't know whether to **Taxicab, xir," said the Dacha- "You enlied for a ferry bost, amile or to sigh. Ilere was her For male shoes of the future hund, "Climb 011 my tinck, sir? We're not ready to go, brother taking a taxieni, o ferry very square toen, duckbili toes please, dlow about you, Missy" Slep aboard.”
bunt and art airplanet ge never and "matchbox"-raised square "Thank you,” mid Itanid, "I Kaart sat himself down on could have belloved it if she furs-are furecast,
want to walk."
the Duck's back.
hadn't seen it all happen,
White and neutral shaden and
Invour
Duckbill
black patent will be na popular The heavy Oxford is losing #twer
as the trend towards The English took returns to lightnem continues. men's stor after several years For leisure wear a new range
as decoration,