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THE CHINA MAIL, FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 1, 1961.
WOMANSENSE
Why do women slap men?
7lIY do women slap
WHY
men?
Like most males I have, on occasion, fell the sting of open, palm applied to check. As man I have brooded up- on the subject from
It's a question of
my tan beren symbols say the experts
time to time, but as a her, perhaps, or becomes cas
reporter I have been in- trigued enough to find out.
complish this objective with wit
Tie. She gets furlous and wauls If she cannot e- to hurt him,
resorts to the and words, she simpler but nevertheless effor
of slapping. She tive method
"when D North American mun starts to behave wickedly at you, don't hesitate to slap him in the face. It works instantly in the Land of Ladies First."
Men will be pleased to learn That Canadi women are not
slapping as often or on as inisy
she has left with which to fight" use of pretexts us their grand- Ur foilmas polats out that mothers did. Experts repert thrro general that the sing is bring downgrod -
for two types of Wrapons in
main her ed these days. armament which she uttars reasons:
mtale. In arguments with the They are on three levels:
What I discovered, I'm afraid, is going to a Leeuse it is ali sting the ladies, though
a woman the same place. not in Psychiatrists and Socio- logists,
who you see,
the have delved into matter have come up with some uncompli mentary conclusions about she
Reflex
highest is the The Best and
level. Here Whe argues matters oul, uring fogle
who gives bleetud
slaps. The prevailing to prove her paints. The second scientific opinion is that is the cational jevel, where she
who
women
weens or uses the psychology deliver withdrawat, as did the women
in Aristophanes Lysistrata,
And the third is the reflex level. She lashes out with the sl:- but still subconsciously
slaps to the male face, no matter what the cir- cumstances, are thereby revealing weaknesses in their own characters.
So here, then, is what the ex- perts on human behavior have tu say about the THE SLAP........ the chips fall where and jet they may
Unfair
First, it must be understood that a slap is more than just the application of the open feminine masculine check hand to the
with a certain amount of forer. It is a symbol, sociologists and anthropologists point out, with Thu a very, specific meaning. meaning is simply this:
When delivered it is intended not to hurt, mains or restrain by
forme, but to win a decision by humiliating "an adversary.
kuwing its power.
by LESTER DAVID
chuting disputes between men
and women is taking a back- ward step."
"BILL suppose the man Is
1. Women are a good deal insistent with his advances and
more tolerant these days
of
won't be stopped by ridicule or 'milar weapons? What's a girl to do then?"
"In
answers Dr that case," verbal Collins, "It's doubtful that a slap Thei would stop him either. it behooves the young lady to yell like hell or run like hell,"
male advances. “They get in- sulted less rasly," explains Dr Bram, Victorian
women, he says, responded to Inderencies
violently. more On the other land, we are now fa
franker, mure natural nge where a spade la called a spade and does not merit a stop.
B
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SHIRLEY LORD
What makes a girl
ARMY DEBL
NURSE
AIR GIRL
POLICEWOMAN
go for a uniform?
(AND I DON'T MEAN ON A
OVE stories
Lo
after the war very pre-occupied heroes back from
MAN)
just this don't go more goggle-eyed didn't like that part of it at were coloured stockings and
over a good pair of legs in mud- oll."
J Just
terrible waste) has yet
wonderft:1." und unleas LE
into any
green
Finally, is it ever all right for a man to h back? The Arm reply from authorities: "Never!"
Neverthel mad ought
shiny Jack Hawkins's wife, Doreen Lester Rand, president of know this:
with brown lace-ups (they thinks it's her "room-mate in Ron- Research Institute the Youth
battle anally, no one A few years ago, the late, flim
and, goon"-agreed; "It was mar
change reports that teenagers consider
said: vellous to Humphrey "When a fellow star
Bogart was
who found that once "Gee, your police Women
that old are thing after slapping passe. makes an unwanted advance to charged in court with shoving
bore." Robin Roberts
out of uniform they American matron says it, I don't pretty a young girl,"
model says Mr Hund,
Angela went on: "For some "she is much more apt to Wither when she made a grab at a
had to impress their suppose anyone will,
people, however, 1 think a stuffed panda Bugle had brought him with a sharp retor: than o
uniform is a good idea. It can Pretty enough to wear girl friends all
Yet the fact remains Cracks such into the plush El Morocco club smack in the face,
bolster up confidence and give women are becoming Inereas some women a sense of belong- as I don't buy
The case came javor a party dress, as well that, mister, in New York,
Jotin Magistrate
Pas for day, is this candy pink
ingly, uniform minded. revents y me home, buil, don't be before
who dismissed drip, and let's draw the line Starkey
the
linon cost edged with white charge, ruling that a man was: "entitled to use enough force to by Leslie Raymond. It also me, sir?"
comes in lemon and white,
Where did the slap originate? Dr Joseph Bram, professor of anthropology at the New York University Graduate School, de- clares its beginnings are lost in antiquity. Dr Bram
the interesting fact that the slap is by no means an international, have taken the place of unband hands-across-the-face, or — BUI.
ibing.
"In name regions of the world," he declares, "male au- thority is taken so
seriously
that it would be unthinkable for a woman to slap a man no matter what the provocation." In Japan, for example, say Dr Bram, even mothers may nui sla their own sons, much less sbrands or boy friends: Te us, by the way, gel wind of this cultural taboo early in life
to become and are opt
quite Bratty unless taken in hand by wh, of course, can whale away at will,
okler brothers, ticles or fathers
Ladies first
Justified?
*. Women are now closer Han they have ever been 10
They are equality with mưa, Anding their place in the sun," asserts Dr Charles W. Collins, New Yurk psychotherapist. "Formerly they were considered inferior and they resented it Thus part of their strongly. pent-up hostility was disenrded There is less at this stap. feeling these days, hence less stopping.
Is a slap by a woman on the face, or a man ever Justified? "No!" replies Dr Collins, and must experts agree.
Dr Richard H. Holtman, inter- nationally prominent psychia- trist, asserts that use of the ship by a woman in n$1 Brgument. widle not considered as unfait as the rabbit punch or the spit- ball. is nevertheless not especially laudable. Hy de- clares:
"A - woman knows very well that a slau is a powerful weapon which produce: embarrassment in o matt When she employs i, she is admiting she is unable to Summer. The Exchange Student woodshed, cope with a situation on a higher Association published a level.
Incidentally, our western al❤
the slop Bude toward
WBS 10 about 1,000 explained incredulous young Japanese who were preparing to leave North Am.can colleges
"For years," Dr Collins points out, "we have been trying to get acruss to parents the idea that proper education involves the {* ase of the brary and the con- this frence table more than the On an international hand level, we are trying to settle discussion rather by tips on disputes "Suppose she is having an how to get along in this country than batlle-witness the U.N.
"Anyone who advocates bit of
3። Advice argument with a man and comes and one
trock, giving succinct
out second best. He belittles levelled at Japanese girls.
CHILDREN'S
"Cat" Grows Wings
thought it could
he came
Knart
or
A
of slapping as a means
CORNER
Was
what
con-
protect his property." Get it, guys?
IT
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Picture by BARRY WARNER
COOKING COLUMNO by Helen Burke
The best of the cheaper cuts...
again.
over
T
that
ing." J
When the uniform carne
Its chic!
Anally mentioned the the
subject casually to our Presi off, so apparently did
27." sald a selgnee dent of the Board of Trade, pink spectacles, and this
Susan Ward the other Reginald Maudling. formed the base for many evening "My daughter, who As far as women wero con- an interesting set of could have all the Balmain cerned, he thought ofr hos- situations.
she wanted, Announced her lesses could look glamorous, intention of becoming a but otherwise a uniform nei. Nowndays plots are more policewoman.
nor ther helped
hindered u complicated, but our affection "When I asked her why, girl.
has undoubtedly she said because she thought Only one thing bothered him: it was the most chic uniform! "It's unfair, I think, if you women in uniform man silli valued Baling, yet I can guess why don't take Not only is more if he comes to a cocktail many young ones want to seriously, such as policewomen
Join something.
directing trame." party with a couple of pips
"The average girl does not Perhaps that's the trouble. displayed proudly
on his know how
to present herself When a woman has to be taken shoulder, but females all over and so the uniform is a won seriously. 1
personally the place are jumping with joy derful escape from having a think ite can be much and true Girl Guide spirit into try
for uniform!!
emained.
Don't you agree?
don't
fan.
#regulation dress of some wal. Susan WOS emphatic, but
I don't begin to understand she admitted she hadn't spent The charm of Uffa why, for the eulous thing is more than two months in7HY does Prince Philip
that we apprïcinte our own sex uniform in her ille and loath-
like in uniform far more than men ed it. then anyway, "It buries
Uffa Fox So ever do.
your individuality."
much? Not just because he's not They are
attracted 10 Angela Lascelles, before she such a good sailor there women who want to spend their murrled the Queen's
""and don't get invited constantly W21 bruss bullons..... years in Enso uniform,
into royal circles.
their
cousin,
worries me when I go into a butcher's shop the wing spit and polish on Gerald, spent some of the war are many of those, yet they.... and hear a customer (usually a young one) asking for "frying steak." Sometimes she gets; meat which I know should be stewed.
To know what to do with the so-called cheaper" cuts and then to make use of them should bring down the cost of all meat,
At present, there are butchers lady who knew how to cool in- who buy only hind-quarter bal, expensive cuis of meat in the
tuus they canni sell the best advantage.
fire quarter. And even those Those who object to long oven who do sell the latter have roolting because It puts up the sometimes to buy wies the east of the dish, even if very amount of hind quarter.
little, can simmer the meat an What happens to fore-quarter the top of the coukor, especially Knurf and Hand wondered to beet? Well, it goes into canned if it is one with that ingenious themselves how Christopher
the automatic control on the hot- Cricket knew mything aboutment, pies,
like, all of which put up the plate. pancakes. But Christopher
est of the beef we buy, begatse Cricket went right on.
the butcher has to pay nigh price for the hind quarters.
"About a month ago, my fal yellow friend with all the legs," said Christopher, "spun himself a hammock and went to sleep halfway up the mulberry tree,
Sounded like Catty
tune on
n
-And Turns Into A Beautiful Butterfly--
when I say Cat. I mean Cater By MAX TRELL
pillar. It's not the same thing. 1 it?" "I NEDER, until Christopher
Chris- Knart and Hank tald Cricket
out among topher Cricket that a Cat the daisien and sat down beside no more like a Colorpiliar than "To tell you the truth, I had Knarf and Hand, the Shadow
But with wings was like a almost forgotten all about him Children with the Turned-About baseball bat
monkey when, just an hour ago, just as Names. They were all sitting wrench was like a Monkey or a I was getting ready to sit down on the grass in the park.
"What did you think never dandelion was like a dandy Lust, under a buttercup and play "I see," said Christopher.
my guitar. I heard could happen, Chris?"
"But, anyway, Chris," said someone calling out my name. asked.
looked around. Knarf, getting back to That Cat growing a pair of Christopher Cricket had started "The voice sounded like Catty
that's what wings,
I never to tell them In the beginning, all right, but I didn't see Cally. thought," Christopher answered what aboui this Caterpillar The only thing I could see was
Knart looked surprised but
that grew wings?"
great, big, beautiful Butter- gave Hanid looked stern. She
y with big yellow and black sharp Christopher Cricket a
and golden wings. then slovic fier Inak,
finger
friend "I can't figure out how he di It," said Christopher. "He was Catty,"
Butterfly. under his Crickety nose. mustn't Hand said sternly. - mean Cat-whom I used to "Mustn't?" repeated Christo- meet almost every day in the pher. "Mustn't what?"
spring, nibbling away al leaves "Musin't make up stories in the mulberry trees near the
toki jake. He seemed that aren't true," Hanid
couple of dozen legs. But even Jairt.
no, he didn't move any faster I didn't make
than a drop of maple syrup mm guns. I "But ...nald Christopher in a loud voice, a flat pancake."
"And It is true," he added! 1F1
How did he know?
aum your
sausages und
grilling meat on a caress of There is comparatively little heet. For instance, one weighing Cooth. yields atly 10 to 12. cf let, up to 301b, of rump and entrecote or sirloin steaks propertiɔn.
LEG BEEF
T least once a month I buy
LADY LUCK-
for
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Travelling back with him to London the other evening-he had just left the Britannia after a two-day cruise to Northern Ireland-I think I discovered the answer.
I've never met anybody who showed more enthusiasm for life.
HIA
YOUR CHINA MAIL HOROSCOPE
When asked him what tline he got up on the Britannia his FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 1
eyes twinkled. "Well, I was stil in my cat at 7.30. Tea doesn't allowances for a subordin- come till eight sharp, so what is ute's small mistakes, In the there to get up for?" light of serious personal Before we arrived home he that have pre-showed me with amused pride enormous inside pockets (specially made for each jacket) which stretched right round his back to take plans and sketches. "Wish me luck," he cried, as we touched down. "Next Saturday's the big race, you know, and I've got A real
He meant the Daily Express will YOUR BIRTHDAY: If this beauty to do the job."
is your birthday you
International off-shore power- interesting boat take B very
from race taking place journey during the year, Cowes to Torquay this weekend. which will at the same time After meeting the man I'll cer- be advantageous to your tainly be wishing him luck. business career.
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abon 26. of Scotch bind-ARIES (March 21-April 19): in leg beer.
outstanding debt ought Cut the ment, all of it, into to be cleared up at once,
small sqliares. Place
before you are faced with n #casserpie with cold
sharp demand. TAURUS (April 20-May 20):
Come to think of it, there are fairly only two legs and two shoulders them in
on a lumb, as well as a number water to cover them well. Bring of loin heps. That leaves a lot fairly quickly almost to the boil pepper *** or other beef and lamb, oblain- then add salt and
Transfer 10 the oven, able at lower prices and well taste.
cover tightly and cook slowis worth considering.
for hours as above. Serve hal,
Leave the remainder to be- coms cold when you will try it is another delicious Jelled dish. That's wonderful food for le
GALANTINE OF BEEF
"Now. Christopher dear, you just a big, fat yellow Caterpillar While I was sleeping, I grew LANK beef makes one of the children and old folks,
Knarf agrees
an even louder volce.
"Cale
never
anld Hanid.
up,"
wings," Krow "No one in the whole world has over heard of
a Cot that grows wings."
She turned around and looked
at Knarf. He nodded and [ peated that no one in the world had ever heard of a Cat grow wingя.
who
"Butkut "Christopher Cricket began. Then he sud- denly stopped. After a moment uf allence, he burst out laughing. "I made a mistake," he kalit,
Not sama "Now, that's different." Falt Hank. "You mean that the Cat didn't grow wings."
To the surprise of Knart and 'Yes Tank, Christopher said,
it The Cat I'm I did mean talking about grow wing all righbly yellow and black and golden wings. Only the mulake I made was not to tell you that
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that the cost of fuel offsets what myself a pair of wings, Aton't expensive galantines,
An unsatisfactory romance For two servings for four to you save when buying Inexpen- they wonderful?"
which is a cause of concern table of high cord leads
against Christopher Cricket looked at six people, buy 3 to 4, of this rive cuts of incul. Bui remun-
to the family will adjust it- Knarf and Hand and smiled. beef. If you do this when the ber this: in addition to the leg
self to everybody's satisfuc- trump and suit contructs. "Well, that's what happened," - butcher is not rushed, he will beef, the oven will take two or
is the no-trump table. tion, even,
neo three
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Lead king from king-queen- Fould happen-bul it did!” them comfortably. Add a break: prunta baked in elder, or dispute between two of your jack or king-queen-ten
colleagues, who are quite Lead queen" from ace-queen- fantcup of water, a teaspoon nt, recam rice pudding or rico pud- salt and freshly milled pepper to ding with mixed frull, or baked able to settle their own Jack, queen-jack-ten, or queen-
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interruple.
1 and 2.
Cover apples
Lift out the moal and, having removed the string, force it lalu annin which is it anything,
Stand a little small for it.
or a
super bread
SCOTCH COLLOPS
n
EG beef can be used
theso, Pass it through the mincing machine. Place it in A in dripping in a strong pan and brown it all over, chopping
In a soup plate and spoon the rich stock into it to over-nowing Place a weighted plate on top ont leave overnight. That mast will turn out faÀ, brautiful naple-coated round and will cut to bresie up those knots of ment like tongu
down on it with' a wooden spomi
that form. Add hot water la,
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If you like, you can add to the meat in the first place the cover, seasoning to tante and, for SCORPIO
each i pound of meat, a good Inevitable bouquet garni end, handful of oatmeal. Cover and perhaps, a pinch of nutmeg or almmer very gently for mace but, for once, I prefer hours,
to add nothing to the meat ollier
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The ance from leg beef: 1,
(October 23- 21): Resulta November
to show very cannot fail soon after the hard struggle you have gone through re- contly
(November 21) Make
than the seasoning and to use beautifully flavoured. The meat BAGITTARIUS the above recipe sa given to it; is excelrist for, curries.
a long, long time ago, by an old
---(London" Express Kervice),
22-December
Lead jack from ace-jack-ten, king-jack-ten, Jack-len-nine, or jack-ten-eight.
#4CARD Senders
North A❤ 34.
The bidding has been:
Fast South West
Pa Pasa
Paso 24
Pass a PRET
You, South, hold: SAKES 10Kq974 493.
What do you do?
Ambid are diamonds. This conirket should almost surely ba a cincia.
TODAY'S QUESTION Inslead of bidding four dia. monds your partner is jumped to Ave. What do you do in this
Answer TomSTTOW
Bouth
ФКОВЬ
AJ Belk vulnerable
East West Northa
IN.T. Pass
1 N.T. Pass Fam Pass
Opening lead—4 A
Lead len from ace-ten-nine, king-ten-nino, queen-ten-nine, ten-nine-eight, or ten-nine-
gaven.
West's normal opening, lead against tireo no-trump is the Jack of spedes, but a really good player will open the neo. Ils renson in that East can't have more
an a couple of high card points and it will be up to Weal to not the hand all by humolf.
The lead of the spado aco sots the hand two tricks. It drops North's singleton queen
so West makes four spada fricks and two red aces. Should he open the lack of spades the suit will be stopped twice and there will be no way to keep South from making four no-trump.