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THE CHINA MAIL, SATURDAY, APRIL 19, 1958.
WEEK-END WOMANSENSE
It Takes Time And Much Patience
BY HERMAN N. BUNDESEN, M.D.
PERHAPS there's no more trying problem for
the young mother than training her baby in good toilet habits. It takes cternal patience, vigilance and self-discipline. Yet some mothers manage it very easily, even before the child is two or three.
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to follow, Ponnsylvania mother tentative schedulo writes of her 20-month-old on: revising it from time to lime.
"I just started last week to tollet train htm. Each day he seemed to do a little better than the last, until this week, Now he song not to be interested in trying at all.
Ho Jabbers
"Even though he docen'i
I don't believe you will get him to go with you without re- sistance and to sit comfortably for as long as necessary. Show your approval for his co-opera- tion with a geniio pal and ten- der tones. To get him to sit there long enough, give him a talkery or picture book. It might
he does fabber and make signs be good even to give him a bit and notees, so that he should or candy at flist, if you would be able to make known To when ho han to go.
"Also, what can I do to get him to stay there long enough? Ho'll just sit a moment, then away he goes.
The week he has had bron- chitis, so I'm not scolding or punishing him. Will his patience come back when he Cets over his sickness?"
Advice To Mathor This was my reply in part: Any lines can easily upset progrom at toilet-training. It 1 were you, I would just have a vacation of a week or two from training that child. Act as f you had never started to train
bim.
When you try it again, don't expoct him to tell you when he wants to go, but take thai re- sponsibility yourself. ment until you find the best time to attend him and post
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brush his teeth, afterward. This might work and it might not.
llowever, calmness and patience will eventually win. Be happy with small signs of progress.
You refer only to his wetting. Unless you have succeeded with
GLAMOROUS FOR A DATE, shto checks her face in a compact mirror. She should rive her looks the same sitenĝon every day.
We'd rather live in London than anywhere.
(and we've triod California)
IX years ago the Brown fumily-actor Phil, wife Ginny, schoolboy sons Robin and Jed-transferred headquarters from their slick, slap-up-to-date villa in the Hollywood hills to a 70ft. converted motor-patrol boat moored alongside Chiswick Mail. A big step-whether you reckon it in miles or mod cons. But the Browns have no regrets.
With us
Jand London it was a case of love at first "YOU look so beautiful In leather jacket, a kerchief led sight," "You
says didn't recognise you!" over her head as a not-very California-born
Fuccessful camouflage for pin Ginny. Is that statement a compil- curls.
Londo his bowel evacuation, It is betterment? Not to our way of think-
stems to be to attack this problem arst in I implies that, lost-time This creature bore little re-returning the fecrtainly not both at once). -cen. the party In question semblance to the prettled-up-compliment, The child's diet and eating habits may be involved, so it's well to keep in touch with your physician,
Answering Parants' Questions
looked a fright,
GLAMOROUS OCCASION
for the party Shirley.
PLEASANT SURPRISE
Yet there arc Women who It was a pleasant surprise for hear such comments, They go the fat and a lesson for Shirex Im- Q. Our pediatrician says our along, day in and day out, ap. Her shopping appearance baby will have a noticeable die- posting plain and dreary, Along proved considerably as a result.
gurement on his face all his comes the annual nince dance
The motto of the story is to life on the result of an necident, and they go all out in prepara-
with take pride in appearance every A. Discipline yourself to ac-ons, arrive glittering cept this fact. Never refer to glamour,
recog- day, not just for special occa are scarcely When others oak about it, say alsed by co-workers. nonchalantly, "Accident," then quickly shift the conversation.
JHITE French broche, woven with Ume green flowers, is used for this penguin line cocktail dress by London Town. A slotted tab holds the two skirts together at the front.
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There is, for example, leenager, Shirley, we know who had just such an experience.
She met a boy she knew at a church dunce but he didn't know her, and small wonder.
ori
a
Phil Drown
is currently starring in one
play and pro-
ducing another.
Robin and Jed,
14 and 11, are
the lions of the
local grammar school.
pretty Brown.
Anu Ginny with two exhibitions behind her, is makhy & name for herself as of pointer riverside life.
it a living tell with their accustomed Fur in a boat is arrangement that suits the well exurberance. adjusted, resilient Brown family Avery weli.
What's more, I you're not a why should natural beauty, people know? Keep your beauty problems a secret. Never appear in pubile unless "your face on."
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No one need know mascaru, powder and rouge make
The lad in question held on after-school and Saturday job pretty you. That's your secret
and, if you're smart, you'll keep the just that.
at the Jocal grocery store. Sure he'd seen Shirley doing shopping for her Mother, but It was a Shirley in slacks and
-JEANNE D'ARCY
WOMEN TIPPING HATS TO
MEN MAY BE NEXT
By JOSEPH FLEMING
The Browns retar aboard the Mayflower.
"I would have to be a very pestal house to get me to move eff my beat," says Ginay.
Looking round the Mayflower -the name alludes to the re discovery of Britain by the Brown family one sees what she means.
It would comfortably five times over. In the Laurel. But for Canyon, Calif., vllin, all that the Mayflower is a very special boat,
"No trouble with the neigh- bours," says Robin, beating a noisy tattoo on his new sol of drums. (Brother Jed plays a xylophone, futher an accordion.)
Giray gives the housewife's "There's more. point of view. storage space than anywhere I've Ilved before. And it's much cheaper that we can ufford a lot of luxuries."
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"Beat-living is like drink-li gels a hold on you," says Ginny. "My husband has just come up with a brainwave-ho wants to do his currerit play aboard hull, an
Atlantic iiner. Ho there's nothing he'd like better than octing his way back and forth across the Atlantic.
"How's that for having your cake and eating it?"
The weatherbealen bought six years ago by the Browns, has been transtormed at the expense of more imagina- tion than cash-into a compact,
WOMEN who live under Communism are in danger of colourful home.
having to tip their hats to men.
They also face the prospect of losing their right to alimony if their husbands divorce them,
THREE TELEPHONES.
Ample accommodation, twn cabins, kitchen, bathroom and scooped out of And if married, they're taken for granted in most West-sitting-room
what was once an engine-room, going to have to pay their en nailons.
Now women in East Germany even, a workshop-tucked into no air- town way.
are shuddering again because the bows. There is The privilege of keeping they've been told Affli more conditioning, but there are three heads covered in the "equal rights" ore coming their telephones ("just like
wood") and a TV zet. presence of men is one of way.
Justice Minister "Red Hilde"
The colour scheme reds, |the-few--still-reserved to nenjamin in a lecture, la wamen girls under the "equal Communist leaders broke the age green, yellow was thought Wherever possi- rights" granted them by rad news that a new family law but by Gimny.
ble the furniture is built in. Communism.
now is being drawn up.
of the
But now the old custom men tipping their hats to indies is being questioned in the Soviet zone.
She made it plain the new law would place still stronger pressure on wives. to get them out of the homes cad into in
have to dustry even if they leave their husbands.
Some men express the view that equal rights, require woman to tip her hat in return She said 18.3 per cent of all when she is grected by a man. women with children now are MORE PRESSURE ON WIVES Working but this is not enough.
LEAVE AND LEARN
"Equal rights" under ·Com-
Holly-
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"It saves space and solves tho problem of how to keep things, steady when the boat begins to rock. And she does rock," saya Ginny, who coped with frequent bouts of sea-ulckness before she settled down lo ilfe at an acuto angle.
Bout-dwellers have to match up to far greater hazards than queasy stomachs. "Leak" is £ word with nightmarish associa- tions aboard the May lower.
munism Itas meant little more She denounced 19 "house for women than hard work in tyrants" husbands who oppose factories and TATE. After their wives taking jobs.
There was the Ugne that Phil, their work they still must do
hurrying to a rehearsal, opened endless household chores with- Wives, she said, who do not
replace them. An hour out the aid of washing machines realise they must work if they the bungs at low water and for- and countless other appliances really want to be equal are inter the boat was lace-deep la
simply stupid.
brackish Thames water. Worse Was the time lost Lack of training is no excuse, still, there
MARRIAGE, YES; BUT JOBS
TOO. IN TEENS'
By GAY PAULEY
FUTURE
BUNCH of statisticians, gazing into their crystal
a mighty healthy chance of catching a husband.
girls of high school age.
very young children will con-
tinuo to work.
The typical young wife has her first child when she is 22
thero Today's typical stitute said
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she said. She asseried that summer when Ghany set off for hus- an hour's shopping and returned wives could leave their bards "for some time in order to find her foaling home no to learn a trade.
Red Hilde, whose husband is dead, said the new family law virtually would abolish alimony. She mid divorced women would et alimony only in exceptional
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longer afloat.
"There it was, like a big black, alus right at the bottom of the river," she recalls.
Luckily, co-operative neigh- bours salvaged most of the Brown's portabi possessions If a man has to pay alimony before the Maylayer took
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tion of Ginny's paintings now splashed across one sitting- room wall.
will
The charms of life'afloat ru another story-and the Browns
For skin
25 and the third when she is 27. pallon In the buliding of
The most common reason for socialism," she said.. But marriage won't remove her from the labour returning to work, after the market..
children are in school,
The new family law, Frau is economic. As children grow, so Benjamin sald, legally
wives to pay The Insitute of Life Insur» For-a majority of the 100, do family expenses, and so does oblige working ance, browsing through statistics corrige no longer ds con the necoralty to save funds for half of the household costs.
But the in- from the government's Bureau sidered a signal to give up a job higher education.
The law presumably will say of Labour files, worked out the right away. futures of any group of 100 young wife, the institute said, reasons. Some women would noting about tippleg hats.
continues to work to supplement rather hold, an outaide job then But man after man ‘in letters: the family income. Many girls remain at home while the to one East Berlia› ngwspaper
NEW milky white liquid gry man still studying, and children are in school. And, mid it was ridiculous fór á man
revolutionla sida treat work until their husbands are beginning at the age of about to tip his hat to a woman.
the Just tap it into mente. qualified,.
43, more and more women bé-|
Erich Meister of the East skin, love to dry three to five Most working wives will conie widows, Wock ja a
thesun' of. leave the job whoq, the first necessity,
wrote, minutes, and then Garmonelly at Gett child arrives. Hameriaking re- The moral of the story, mid “considering equal rights, every Flaky dry skins disappear on maing their only occupation at the inghite whether the woman should be obliged to tip to the Umrud 10w.. od. by w Toont til the youngest chiliul în marries or not, today'a tecnigen har bat when har husband or posed to be enough for 50 troop at school. Nevertheless, close shoulda prepare surebuily, for? * (another man greets her by tip ments Cumplate works include to 15 per cmt-of-wamen (with, enteer.
!ping his hat.”
A vista tonla and costs $75,
Here are some highlights: Out of 100, about 50 will be married by the time they are 20; nearly 00 per cent will be wed by the time they are 30, WORKING WIVES
of the 10 per cent who will
probably remain single most
Will work for a total of about
40 years each;""
JOCASTA INNES
Actress Tells You How? To Start Conversation
SITY ABOUT talking? Ask people about themselves, advises actress Blaine Stritch. It's a good conversation-starter. By JEANNE D'ARCY
ITB terrible to be shy, tongue- "Then," said Miss Stritch, tied, afraid to open your mouth, who's blonde, attractive and wili always at a loss for something soon be seen in the now movie to say.
⚫veralon of "Farewell to Arms," This is something that comes then say something else. Teil people your name, where.you're upon us all occasionally-when P we're overwhelmed by meeting from, what you do for a living. someone we admire tremen-Ask them about themselves dously, when we're thrown into that never fails as a converuR-
tion-starter. a group of total strangers, when we're with people who are dia- Aak for Opinions ousing something we don't know the first thing about.
you can always keep talk go- ing by asking for somebody's opinion. What does a woman They Worry Too Much
think about the now chemise When it happens, we can ap-shapo? What does a man think preciate how paralyzing it musthout the United States missile be to be tongue-tled all the time, program? and there are people like
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"Once you get the conversa- They worry that anything they on started," said the talkative say will sound dull or stupid. blonds, "you can just sit back, What can be done about this?jmako un occasional comment, We naked actress Elaine Stritch, poso a question or two. It's easy renowned as an amusing con-[ng that?""
versationalist and a good His-} A Lani Thought
tener.
Good Advice
As an afterthought, she add- jed:
"Plunge right into a conversa- "Nobody should worry about tion," she said. "It's just like not being a talker, That's not. swimming. Don't be frightened the important thing. If you Don't spatter conversation don't like to gob, just cas the Bround violently. De calm: Take talkers and they'll carry an It chay. But any something- "Don't think it's a dreadful something simple and common- thing to be a quiet person. Not place. Even mention the weath-at allt The big bores aren't quiet" people. They're people who talk It's good advice, but it posed and talk and talk-much too A question: And then what? much!"
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