← THE CHINA MAIL, SATURDAY, OCTOBER 20, 1957.
WEEK-END WOMANSENSE
How to Handle
Parents couldn't possibly agree with"
"Actions that I'm sure you'd regret later "Extending the moderate int!- "Having macy of Kissing"
Judgment over- your better. ruled" "Jumping the gun" and "Having men respect you because you said 'No.'",
F is for
"By the
time you swear you're hix,
Shivering and slohing, And he vows his passion ja Infinite, undying...
Lady, make a note of Dila:
One of you te lying."
If Dorothy Parker doesn't get you by, try the French view from Francoise Sagan:-
"I can't understand people making such a fuss about love affairs. If someone has an idea of love with anything noble I had
saving about it, he preserver
Parents face saving
by Anne Edwards
FAR
AR too much advice is given these days to parents on how to handle their young, and far too little to the young on how to handle their parents.
The object of this ABC is to explain to those between-agers in the formative years (formative for the parents, that is) exactly how to get the best out of a parent.
considered
Am
on
"And then they say: 'Oh, she's very pretty. If I say I'm bringing home a smasher, it's ten to one they'll say she's got
view bod leg."
And I'd like to stale hote and now whose side I am on in the struggle. r the side of the young.
It is my that young people generally these days are an astonishing- ly competent, cool, clear-sighted bunch, and that familles
pretty lucky to have them around.
The bait
when he encounters It ho recognises it If he was that parents mistaken ho pays dearly or
And then, when you have
SOMETHING
as much AS the otherwice."
Japanese they have said a definite "No" and you suspect thoroughly alarmed the parents, they want to relent, help them calm them down by assuring out, eg. "Well, it I sell you my them that you are not always sympathy with the camera can I use the money to In
Americans, not quite in agree- ment with the French.
buy a puppy?"
Oz: "Can I go It I promise to be home by 11 and bring him in to meet Daddy first?"
G is to get
them to see
reason
Mr Ray: "When
SAY want something yery badly
I
of
"I want something special,"
M is for
Mamma
tho
AR too much sympathy FAR LO
Even these days to unfortunate young who have
not enough mother love, 1 give mine to the unfortunate young who have too much.
devoted,
13
It's the darling doting Mamma who dangerous.
If you don't look out she'll have you 35 and still single being darling, dating and devoted to her.
I say: 'Now look, let's be rea- sonable, and if that doesn't work go on a hunger strike. R IS also for Bicycle, and I eat accretly In my room, nhe
the problem (only for course," younger brats) of how soon says Miss Gaskell, I try clear you can get your parents to sweet reason and togle, and if give you one, and persuade that fails I keep on and on and goo them to let you ride it in the on and on and on, and the poor DUT before putting into the traffic. Bhands
of the younger One pretty sure way round things have to give in in the Keneration this compendium is to offer them prize balt: "If
No Chance
of adviço and ammunition I get an average of 50 per cent Rathered from a cross-section in the exams will you give me of teenage sources, I make one a bicycle?"
plea for that much more mis- Then if you're lucky enough understood generation - the to get up above parents.
you can
end."
His for
-a
postscript
M ALSO for Make-up.
The
best reason I ever heard for being allowed to use it was given by nine-year-old Daisy
••• Ashford in her book, "The Young Visiters." "I shall put red ruge on my face
150 per et hit parade......
count 02 a three-
No wonder that parents are speed attachment as well
On the question of riding
tioongg ND whether and how often because I am very pale owing a crazy, mixed-up crowd, hope- lessly confused about what in it. In heavy traffic-parents ▲ you should be allowed to right and what is wrong. have a frightening set of statis- play your new long-playing to the drains this house
They grew up at
parents N FOR No. See later on how time ties on their side, so be toler- record, which to your 4
to get them to change this when codes were more rigid bnt.
exactly like the last one only for Yes. and upbringing that much simpler, when divorce was not so hophazard, when
the sub-
C is for
ject of the Wolfenden Report #8
was not dinner-table conversa- tlon, when people still thought there was a difference between uzlamour puss and a lady.
One plea
is
O for oil
WOTSC
Jonathan Barkby, son of Mre Kenneth More (wife of the actor), recommenda a method= which is teenage practice almost
the cost everywhere.
of living
-in trouble
It's a car coat, but it's ideal for casual wear too. Made by Lyndale, this gay jacket has a specially insulated lining which will keep out the heat or cold, according to where you wear II.
Mortimer, 15-year-old daughter of the writing Mortimere, says: "Daddy loves to be told he is
than Gregory Peck"
Just a question of getting used nearly always soothe agitated to France," 'confided: consultant very handsome and much nicer
Wfor Writing letters
"When they say, "Take that
very reason) kids are not quite record off, I just put it on a bit
so treen on it. sofler. And when they go on TF you play it right, you can "I smoked a lot when I went complaining I explain that it's
parental feelings. Uce subtle 17-year-old Giles Bristow (con O handle your parents with PARENTS do not seem
luttery to back up the straight of to to it."
an advertising excelive). care, girls: Jeunesse Oblige, "PARE
rentiae," writes a 16-year- H FOR Housework and forward appeal. Lucy Bartlett, "but it made me feel sick so I boys. Remember they really
young schoolboy, haven't a chance against those old angry
whether and how much you 10-year-old daughter of B.B.C. gave it up." Anthony Matthews, "that the should be expected to help with TV announcer Mary Malcolm always accomplished and gen--
their it erally beloved
I quote the views of two (Lady Bartlett), says: "When 1. The kind of parent you can't blackmallers things they bought in
youth
rusting Sd.
cast modern mothers which may be sold I wanted to be an art defeat is the one I heard deal- yourselves.
student, useful ammunition:--
IRY parents schoolboys 25.
were Ing, with this problem when
"You can holiday: "We hear the
them that First, the Mrs Hugh Galispell worried because they thought I was
her 14-year- smoke," she told weariner men's far in their school days as ours. daughters, and if I made them coffee. bars,
In the end I said to enough money to pay for it." So why do they not give us
of housework they clothes.
You
Giles Bristow," "I usually say them 'I'm your daughter. would hate living at home."
S is also for Swearing don't twice as much pocket money?
expect Second, the Lady Pakenham must trust me, and it was all Parents, I flat, will swear and shan't have much time
any
letters) "They surely must realise that magazines, pencils, rubbers, view (given me by one of the right from then."
the young go on being shocked writing." And then they're by it. sweets, cinemas, and fares cost eight): "I don't much care for
pleased with a postcard. serving at Mummy's dinner
·
And now-1
present
My
A B C on How to Get
Love and £ad.
from
now
on
I
R rather not writing them.
Best out of a Partat in Liberty, their money used to go twice as vlow: "I beileve in spoiling my was going to spend my days in old firmly, "when you when I go away," saya
A is for
advice
KNOW that's the only thing you've plenty of, baby. But look what happens to children who don't know how to handle their parents,
Not long ago
much more.
do a Iot
•
"Sometimes, when I fell parties, cuided July Fakes is for
astonished, although
the price But Mummy pays me for it, so
of their cigarettes and drinks I do it."
go up nearly every year,
"I have even heard of boys of
13 and 14 who only gets 5s, a *****
Sun Clark week, which is roughly Ba to see day. Shocking, Isn't it?"
⚫ found herself forbidden
her flance. This fellow is not c Is also for Cars and how
to my taste," sald hor to get
one of your own. For father, sir Andrew Clark, method one see B for Bicycles
-the balt "Susan cam rule him right out,
-and a
warning
"My younger brother Thomas (13) sweare," announced Judy Pakenham gravely. "My mother
Pa... curiously is much more tolerant
than we are about it. We all pitch into him and try to stop
T for
Telling all
....the parent whom most him." girls And the easier touch of The two.
new "If I want a I bin," dress,
BuyS Lucy Bartlett. "I hint most terribly, ***! With Mummy I have to be Spy...t blazing
sensible and point out why I FOR 1
mishandled need it. example of a
With my father it Shirley Summerskil doesn't matter, so long as 1. look parent.
dis- nice." service to between-agers every- father on the doorstep bran- father, "I gave Dad everything or Edith, get away with such where by letting her mother, dishing
I'd got including a bicycle and horse-wulp; Wanted to teach him a lesson," camera. You never saw ruch an orgy of patronising advice.
heap of trash as I traded-In I say in your life."
Kiddo.
is the thing. For And everyone remembers method two Bee Burling, Bio the sad case of Colin Wilson's He got his first car by trading has inadvertently done a girl friend, who found her in all his possessions to
he said.
*
So on A for Advice
Beller listen
to me,
Learn this A B C.
B is for
boy friends
AN
ND how surprising it is that
parenta En
often think
their daughter's boy friend
his
they're ready to fall for methods
one or two.
"Remember that fuency had He********
a store of factual information
-for a
X for X
for
films
WHICH goes too for X-type
reading and is not much
of a problem today. One parent summed their side of the question of censorship with this: "When they are very young they don't understand that's
half- they my advice, anyway. When Never tell all, for your understand they done to me parents' sake. It puts them in and ask questions. the dilemma of having to be they're older-you can't stop
them," shocked, or (if they want to keep your confidence) never
DON'T
summing up being shocked
And when
Y for
Yes
Tis also TV and watching 09-Jʻja
of first-rate battle is lost from the time you
qualities of mind which I should For a quota which sums up it. Most parents know tho
my ideas
is no Indication of Intellectual Method three is to borrow honesty or soundness of judg your parents car so often that
ment, and these are the
like you to cultivate."
This is the kind of thing that handling on both sides. It are five years old. But if they brings parents into disrepute. comes from the Kenneth More show fight occasionally, Just
family. "Sometimes," Jonathan nag and, nag. renaked, "Ken says, to ma: "Where-are-you-going-mind- your-business, and then, course, I tell him,”
Dis
their don'ts is for
KNOW you
but don't
don't like their' saying "Don't";
you don't lan't worry,
too old, she is too young, he is after their money, he
nearly good enough for her, notice, do you?
take much
jobs...
THE time la paat when there was a nasty scene in the breakfast-roam because Erncat expressed his intention of being an artist intend of going into
R for Reverse
charges
RACKET that almost always
U for Using
the place
as a hotel
•
ND getting them to my It
or what the whole ABC £9 about. My investigations among between-agers this week have shown me that, faced with such gulie it's a tribute, to parents.
zny that they ever manage to No at all.
Fou
ca90
your
troy
If you get a stubborn and why doem't be ever as "I'm always being told 'Don't cat owcots, says 19-year-old
you can usually break it down her home?
with an extra bribo. crooner Pauline Shepherd. "But Parents are improving on this I cat everything I can lay my issue though, and the brightest bands on and it doesn't make the family business. Today comes off with
TS the perennial parentni Phone ITS
*Tive brought kind have twigged that if they me any fatter."
parents are more likely to fall owning parents. And the odd bind. You'll never get them breakfast in bed" you must say, want her to bring her boy Dis also for Drink. Polat out on Ernest's neck if he knows thing is that the further away to stop saying it but you may snd, then, plonking the friends home they had bolter the good sense of Jane Gaskell's what he wants to do,
the bed, you go - ont you are and the more expensive get them not to stop you doing down on father.
reverse-charge, call, the 11.
"About that : put up a show of liking them,
camera--li's going The thing that worries them the The furthest
than I lo cost rather more "I wually drinks half a glass is a touch of Galsworthy's more likely they are to fall for parents go in remonstrating was of whatever's going," mys Jare. While Monkey about
The Backby formula used thought..." their it summed up by Joyce Grenfell; “My father CENTRE me young. Remember "He won't "Your son calling you from successfully on his mother, bira k
and I are delighted to. He says it will stop me be happy till he gets it," says Barcelona," saya the cool voice Kenneth More, is to leave it till
a fool of myself later Michasi, contemplating # of the telephone girl, "Will the last minuta
"Daddy
most
modern
that you are going to marry a rooking
middle-agod Portuguese Con- CIL.'
Jurer darling. But are усц
sub the tricky
On
question
of
:
he will make you happy?" E is Introducing your latest at home, I OP
some
two temagers pass excellent advice: Jazio Guskoll
(40-year-old authoress
of
"Stango Evil") says, "I tell
picture of the White Monkey, you accept the charge?" "The only thing is, zvu sóc, ho And they do panicked at the doesn't know what IT 15”
thought you may be languish "ing in some Spanish gao).
K for kissing
They are even so relieved to
When I ring up such say have got these boys hero-can bring them back? I think you'd like them.
“And the says: “Tva, meɛ them all before.” Then stie BAYN:
7 for
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