THE CHINA MAIL, SATURDAY, JULY 16, 1955.
This is NOT for those who (honestly, mind) say we NEVER have a differenco
ONE MAGIC WORD
"T
IT'S THE Secret of THE
MARY PICKFORD ‘QUARREL POLICY'
(After 18 years of marriage with Buddy, Rogers),
"Sure does," said Mr Rogers. T'S been 19 on-
derful years," "Of course, we're not so silly glowed Mr Charles as to believe that's the whole "Buddy" Rogers, of the answer but it does short- "Eighteen," chipped in his cut bad temper and it's better to have a truce than a temper." wife, Mary Pickford. "Ho (Credit to Mr Noel Coward always wants to make it a for the iden, shown not working year longer. Is that a com- in Private Lives), pliment?"
Another
lo
have couple who 1erma
end their They were disagreeing "truco
Adrianne about the date of their quarrels are actress
Allen and her lawyer-husband And the first william Dwight Whitney. murriage.
learned, thing you need, I
"My husband is an Ameri- for a happy marriage like
both firmly bellove in Anglo- theirs, is a properly laid says Miss Allen, "and we down quarrel policy." American Co-operation.
It was a marriage that in 1937 caused a lot of specu- lative gossip. For Mary, the World's Sweetheart, surprised the adoring world man ten by marrying a years younger than herself just over a year after her divorce from Douglas Fair- banks, sen.
*
On
"So when an argument be- tween us seems to be going too long one of us just says AAC and the argument ends.
"It has worked very well for 16 years now."
Taking a look at the quarrel polley" of another happy (15 years). marriage, that of Mr Anthony Greenwood, MI1, and his wife Gillian, I learned that But the marriage has outlast- although quarrels are rare they
ame always sidetracked ed the gossip.
whichever one of them happens And this is because neither of not to be in a land mood leaving them belleves sublime
15 ''
the room.
by
marriage but mystery
18 ;) And what happens. H both technical achievement composed of love, understanding and lots are in a bed temper?
of quick thinking.
And above all, when e quar- it needs quick 163 TODELS WA disposal by well-estabilshef rules.
"Whenever it seems We are about to quarrot I say to my husband-Toronto, which is my birthplace." "And I say to Mary Olathe, which is my birth- place." joined in Mr Rogers.
Then we discuss the whole thing calmly the next morning," says Miss Pickford.
"Meanwhile we carry on as had happened though nothing and more often than not there is nothing left to talk about in the morning anyway. "It really works
Now
"was given some advice by my godmother."
Says Mrs Greenwood, "That was, Never be an n bad temper the same tinte as your husband. When I
id:But supposing -um-]- was told 'You mustn't be, that's all. Somehow it works but that way."
No sidetracking for Mr and Mrs James Thurber, however, 20 years happily married.
for er,"
Bays
not "None of this leaving for together
to let any com- an plaints creep in, however cross 12 hours or sleeping on
Mrs may be feeling. argument Thurber.
an,
"I do think a woman has to "An argument is n very good give more and to make thing. I like ft," sold Mr effort to keep things serene." Thurber. "I've written about 20.
So with herself weil under books on the subject.
control, what happens when her husband is feeling cross? The answer is guile.
"But we have rules on how to fight and how not to fight."
And what are the rules?
Mr
Thuiter "Oh," said evasively, "the twenties and
are for ghting, thirties
for u peuce I forge! what ful time.
our forties and fifties
rules ore.
She has been married for 22 to dramatist Mr Benn yours Levy and they have still to have their first quarrel.
of love a row myself," she says. "But it takes two."
dis
"He has much an even position it is Impossible to get much less fight- him arguing, ing
So I have just about given up."
Frankly I have
the
"I throw all his guns оду Unfortunately the Mr Levys by being especially sweet. I divert his attention from what are just about as rare-na is making him cross by flatter- Miss Joyces. the
ing him about something, mentioning his cooking, Or try ing to get something
for him liike a cup of coffee. Instead of Just try. to fighting back I change his mood by any means I can think of."
"But a man likes to hear his wife talk when she's cres. Like
bells," charming
he added weirdly,
Eileen Joyee (Mrs Christoɔ- pher Mann) belleves in a skilful tise of sweetness.
are
about all these rules and gim- my doubls micks.
A human being in a real rage is like a bus going downhill without brakes,
But, of course, one of the
i3
secrets of a happy marriage to be loyal to it against all inquirers,
There is, of course, the other way Constance Cummings's
white lie.
<<We
both
vory busy way. tragle people and it would be to spoil our time together. So That of marrying a man who I make it a rule when we are will not quarrel.
“A Cool Look at the Loved Ones" —— which has been reappraising the famous in the light of their achieve- ments. Nancy Spain was invited to choose two writers whose work.interested her. This is what happened..
MY PILGRIMAGE TO SEE MR WAUGH
By Nancy Spain
FOUND out
after- oxtra cups.
He told us And then he withdrew into the
country and wrote books wards that John Mase- about the time he was £
/
we
fleld; the 80-year-old barman in New York, long didn't enjoy quite so much. Poet Laureate, hadn't In- before Prohibition days. He He used to be a reporter; he vited Lord Noel-Buxton and thought New York was the used to play terrible. practical myself to tea either. most beautiful place in the jokes: ho once climbed a ladder 100 fest-high for a bet and took world.
off his tie in a restaurant and Lord Noel-Buxton just
gave it to a. lady who hack the walked into
house "But the sword outwears admired it. Burcot Brook, while I was the sheath a little there, outside waist deep in a rich doesn't it? Of course, I was laughed quite loud when some
And he was supposed to have.
across a crop of hay, staring
boy then....no idea I body said that it was young the eternal Thames that was going to be a poet. I Mrs Humphrey Waugh. who murmured
the worked in a bar called The wrote the novels.". through
the Colombia. I don't think it's golden afternoon at bottom of the wild garden. there now.
It was a glorious after- noon, just right for 11 literary pilgrimage.
A darling man
But John Masefield was, "It needa application and hospitality itself. His blue knowledge to be a barman,
were
And he had written a satiro on Hollywood cemeteries called "The Loved One" that had up- Americn set the morticians of so much that they say they will not bury him if he should die over there...
"Lor"," Bald Lord Noct-
Even to the extent of a little eyes danced with pleasure, you know. Don't despise it. Buxton. "He sounds rather fun." "I don't think you'll see him,”. was In those days there his white moustache
on crisp with happiness as he well over 200 sorts of cock- I said. "His wife told me
the telephone this morning that Anne Sharpley fetched more ontcake and tails, juleps, things that he was Not at home.
were frappe....'
"Well anyway, we can have
NO FLOWERS BY
REQUEST
(of the Chief of Police)
IN BIG FOUR' GENEVA
Geneva-Powers—and the Soviet FREDERICK SANDS TAKES A
stand out as a symbol
LOOK ROUND THE SITE OF THE SUMMIT TALKS WHICH WILL TAKE PLACE ON MONDAY
Genteel place
He was silent, dreaming back a look at the house." in the past, but his complexion, ruddy, as a young boy's, made me think he had never drunk a [cocktail in his life, "I think
I did it quite well, that job," said the Poet Laureate, blushing' and looking down.
In Stinchcombe (which is JA straggling collection of pre- fabricated houses) we found a John Masefield is a darling pub called Tho You Tree. man. And over ten we talked Everyone was most helpful and about Roman fords (which is a splendid Character with his Lord Noel-Buxton's subject) furry bosom bursting from his Laurens Van der Post (Mrs shirt gold he would show นค Masefield had been reading a where Plers Court was, Book by him), and Evelyn Waugh.
"Where
Another handsome character, Norman Attwood, who actually does Waugh live?" works for Me Waugh, suggested
asited John Maselleld.
we put in a word for his silver "Does Mr Waugh play "He lives the life of a coun- band.. try gentleman," I said. "At in it?" I asked. "Does he play
Piers Court,
Gloucestershire."
Stinchcombe, the bugle?"
"Lot' no. But he gives us all
HAVE seen a thou- Union, a conference poten- sand signposts pointing tially equipped to change to Geneva; but they the destinies of our and never looked the same as future generations in East those I passed on my way and West. down here this time, to find That thought mude Geneva, out how Geneva is preparing the closer I came to the city of
Calvin, for the first conference
"A long way to go," said John cigars when we go up there and on of our time. It became more the most exalted level in the than just the name of a town,
To his office dally come top- in a large chateau where ex-Mascheld. "And you think he play to him"
Of course he since Potsdam. snugly tucked
the secret messages from away in
London, King Lescold of the Belulens won't see you?
So up we went to Piers Court, meeting of the westernmost corner of a coun- Washington, Paris, and Moscow. lived during his exile in Swit-will. Why, of course I have
fondness for journalists, genteel residence indeed. The for
SweeD try which
centuries has By far the most severe con- zerland. Mr Harold Macmillan, great
was dainty as the heads of spelled peace in capital letters, ditions are being imposed not, the British Foreign
Secretary, having been one myself, and gravel
frequently
The lawns were trim. anything. being when
Inter- 09 опе might
urna think, by the will have a smaller house on an mujor Western
two Russlans but by
F.B.I. adjoining properly.
viewed in the past I have talked Beyond a battlement of
the dim blue Severn could chlofs who flew here from Standards of personal security to them through the keyhole of faintly be seen. And by a neat the bathroom. Yes, I rather flower bed was a notice board: Washington.
will govern the ultimate choice of President Elsenhower's quar-enjoy being Interviewed through NO ADMITTANCE ON BUSI-
a keyhole.
"We have an argument, point for point, until one or the otherten years wins," says 'Mra Thurber. This It is the is a tactical battle with two Big Four, very well-pointed Bekl.
the three
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On we went
Although a number of luxuri-
"You must look out for and
I rang the bell. Mrs Waugh, a beautiful woman in a twin set.
slacks, came Immediately, deeply and leaned sighed against the door jamb.
I cald who we were. She
sald
After looking around for two days and talking to people here
So far, basic agreement ben I was struck to find the Geno tween Commandant Knecht and of the secret police of Vese so much at case. They see heads themselves
as casual witnesses four countries has been reached of history in the making, but on the following points:
1. Crowds must be kept at It's "just another conference" to
gafety
distance" them. With the Arst signs
by armed ous villas are available the two Hetty Pegler's Tump as you go of
om the Big Four, their Washington Secret Service work, where they used to bury
along. A splendid long earth summer they are preoccupied police from
now at Geneva have reported to an Foreign Ministers and ears; with acquiring a seasonal
making
of
·and
2. Setting-up hollday prepara-
security the State Deparmtent that they the old British chiefs."
Aho was afraid we could
tions,
zones to include the conference think the President should move Asked Lord Noel-Buxton: Is not stay, when I heard a volco calling: "Who is it? What is They have seen conferences area and grounds of the United in with the 250-strong delega-
it?" and Mrs Waugh replied: come and go which did little of Nations Palace, as well as the tion for whom four floors have Evelyn Waugh a nice man?"
four Geneva hotels
"I met him once," said John "Lord Noel-Buxton This has
and ap- been reserved at the Du Rhone.
and Misa what they promised.
com-Moscheld vaguely. And his blue Nancy Spain." made them cynical
the proaches to private villas where Its third floor directly of
Governments and municates with the adjoining | eyes became less blue in his paintial £4,000,000 biscult heads
Consulate-General. American
efforts to remember him. the delegation members live;
VOT coloured marble structure,
"Tell them to go away," sald second largest
il- building
3. Powerful in
all night
The only trouble-makers from was it the father? Yes, I think Mr Waugh. of security zones the accommodation angle areI knew the father better. Ą Europe, which is to be the seat lumination
the Russians, who refused to publisher, wasn't he?" with Army searchlights: of the coming meeting.
share quarters with tourists and other strangers.
To the Genevese it is the big while elephant that has con- become the cradle secutively
4.
"What was he like then?
"Go away,
go away! You read the notice, didn't you? No admittance on business?".
Not wanted
The authorities have
"I don't know. I really don't oblig- And the burial ground of the
John
Masefield's A strict ban on throwing ingly "requisitioned" the whole know." old League of Nations. It is
of the Hotel
limp Metropole for moustache became quite here that the Big Four will sit of flowers, as these could con-
tain explosives;
them, a relatively simple matter with disappointment. "Do you together at a large square table
6. Mentally unbalanced per- because the hotel is State know, I really can't remember Lord Noel-Buxton is rather a not a round table in a re
andi doubiful
anything about him at all, clements owned.
.." tall man. He stood his ground, crranged, dignited, green-and-
known to the authorities to be Commandant Knecht had to
blinking, looking down at Mr gold-decorated Council Room,
So on we went into the heart Waugh, who is rather a short- rounded up and kept in seclu- agree to let the Russians do
of Gloucestershire. We stopped, man: "I'm not on business," sion during the conference their own policing, period.
I
son's
Mir
..
Marshal Bulganin, the Soviet in Oxford to buy Lord Noel- was the answer. "I'm a men- No less formidable then the Premier, and his Foreign Secre- Buxton a copy of a novel by beg of the House of Lords,
Mr Waugh, so that he could I looked over the room, with task of Commandant Knecht, tary, M. Molotov, will share
mug
it up. And I tried to ex- "Go away* repeated Mr Its view across lush lawns,
closely linked with it, to yet
la lorge, Taissian-owned villa fac-
plain about Mr Waugh as the lofty, snow-capped peak of that
wo Waugh, who anco held a com- of Geneva Buthorities ing the U.N. palace.
wwirled through Cirencester, mission in the Royal Marines, Mont Blanc, and sat down
charged with finding suitable
along the magic, haunted Fosse generally showing that we were. .onc of the soft green leather accommodation for the Big Four
Way, down great tufted hills not wanted. armchairs which will be occu- heads of Governments and
into the_golden sunset, into the pied by one of the Big Four 000-800 delegates, advisers, Who is actually to sit in it will
Severn Valley.
depend on final agreement on starles,
who shall alt facing whom.
of an
and
personal Up to the present the French squads, to say nothing have not decided on a residence:
Foreign estimated 1,000 news for their Premier and At this stage of the prepara- paper, radio, and television re- Minister, Their delegation will tions the hub of activity is not, porters and photographers.
stay, at the Hotel des Bergues, however, at the United Nationa Theoretically the problem was the city's most opulent. Palace but a second-floor office solved after the City Council in the old part of the town. sent out emergency orders to Here Commandant Charles hotels stating that the council
security
Rather fun
bo
So we went back to the car and climbed in and started to drive away.
"Oh, Nancy," sald Lord Noot-
I said that Evelyn Waugh Buxton. "Do stop. He's coming used to
a Bright Young to apologise." Most actively preparing in
Thing, who wrote bright young readiness for the meeting are
with names like "Vile felt He had come out of the So I stopped. But not on your novels Geneva's night-club owners, Bodles" and "Black Mischief,' house
shows which now
merely to shut two- and we all loved them. He first wrought Iron gates and bolt married Evelyn Gardner in
them too. 1927. Ha marriage was dia- solved in 1930. In that year he "So much for
pilgrimage," said panion.
And so ended our attempt to gabe-crash my favourite idol.
Knecht, ruddy-faced, Oft-tall takes first priority on all rooms rehearsing chief of
for the week beginning July 18. would make Paristans blush. Geneva Police, veteran of 20 years' experience
Hotels of international
were told to cancel forces advance bookings wherever organising his conferences, is
not Was
Footnote-The paintings on was received into the Church of more than 2,000 troops, State posible. But that and Federal police.
OL enough. Hundreds rooms the wall of the Council Room, of Rome.
In 1937 ho married Laura had to be found in private flats a gift from Spain, were cere-
moniously unvelled at the same Herbert and had six chlidren. did houses.
Franco's guas Anthony Edon, the Bri- moment tish Prime Minister, will stay opened fire on Madrid.
*Served with chopped tee.
...
The Commandant fold me: "I am preparing the most wide aprend security system ever de vised in peace-time."
JOHNNY HAZARD
Sir
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·JOHNNY; LOOK SHARP FOR THE NEAREST EXITUI THINK WE MADE BIG MISTAKE COMING IN HERE!
· BO THE INFAMOUS GENERAL
| GEFALLEN IS ALIVE... RIGHT UNDER
OUR NOSES! EXCUSE ME...THIS
REQUIRES A CALL FOR › RE-ENFORCEMENTS!
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