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Yesterday the "Daily Mirror" Psychologist posed twenty ques- tions which girls should ask them- selves about their fiances.
Each question had three an- swers. You ticked the one which seemed to apply most to the man you may marry.
Now count up your score ́ac-¡ cording to this key:-
In questions 1, 2, 3, 16, 17 you. award five points for every C an- swer, three for every A, and one for every B.
In question 11, you award five points if the answer is A, three if it is B, and one if it is C.
In all the other questions, award five points for C answers, three for B answers, and one for A answers. lf the total score is 70 or over your fiance is emotionally Adult Good husband material.
Over 50. Emotionally adolescent. The
a
he is
of emotions thirteen-year-old or thereabout. Odds on a happy marriage fifty-fifty.
Under 50.
Emotionally an In-
fant. Emotional age — about five years. Odds poor. Unless you're an exceptionally motherly type. Ot he's so brilliant, talented or weal- thy that you don't mind.
YE
"ESTERDAY I told you
everyone has three ages,
fiance may
be thirty
Your
years.
that
AND NOW
THE CHINA MAIL, JUNE 16, 1937. BY HENRY HARRIS
ARE YOU SURE
HE'S THE MAN FOR YOU?
exceptional talent
will as an artist. discouraged,
again.
The World Is His Sparring-Ring
The emotional Adolescent is ag- gressive. Wants to dominate, do the other man down. The world is his sparring-ring.
Success brings no satisfaction or happiness. His only thrill is get- ting on top. Not merely being
probably try
There you are. cent, Adult.
Infant, Adoles-
Types naturally not indivi- In work he prefers to co-operate with others. Whether leader or duals. Nobody fits either of these rank-and-file, he does his equal pictures exactly.
best.
If he succeeds, it is not at the
If he fails, he pletely expense of others. neither excuses nor blames but exist. tries to find and remedy the fault.
And carries on.
And don't expect to find the com- Adult Man. He doesn't
Any more than the completely Adult Woman.
His social technique is simple It is human to be imperfect. But friendliness. Tempered with frank- no reason why you shouldn't seek ness that may be tactful or stark. the least imperfect. No reason to Business men are often of this But fits the situation.
choose blindly.
type.
Prefers to be liked
there.
but does
In love he wants to dominate and not mind if he is disliked.
possess.
His hate is slowly aroused, rare- ly impulsive strong while it lasts
and effective.
Despite his tricksy chivalry as a lover, what he wants in a wife is a
Armside Decoration, in slave, an
In intelligence a thirteen-year- old. Emotionally a five-year-old.
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а
Credit-To-His-Name.
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Your best chance of love lies in a wise choice plus an attraction that is mental as well as physical.
For love is not the cause of hap- piness in marriage. It is a result
He can laugh at himself as of it. well as at others.
It comes from joy and tribulation He would like to be a Don Juan, Old age he neither fights nor ig- shared. Play and work together with many conquests many bat- nores. But accepts gracefully. through the years.
tles won. Fluffy, infantile cling- women fall for him them.
and he for
his
Things that test and reveal
He judges a woman by her su-
flashy man's emotional age are his ability perficial
qualities es- to adjust himself:
pecially by the number of rivals To People. To get on with that compete for her.
Unsuccess and be liked by-both sexes.
in love reveals 2. To Work and Leisure. To get stark jealousy and possessiveness. reasonable happiness from both of. A jealous lover is one whose van- them.
ity about his powers as a lover has To Relatives-especially his been torpedoed. Jealousy is really Parents and more especially his self-love nothing to do with real
3.
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THE
,
WORLD GOES BY By "ULYSSES"
com-
HE State of Tennessee, U.S.A., [cil, I would like to assure the Italians
were epi-that the celebrations has suffered a recent demie of child marriages. Day after pletely spoilt by the Irish outrage. day have come new reports of child
brides.
the Children he would like for
Late the other night a prankster
Mother. To his ability to like and love. respect them. Yet become weaned from ytter emotional dependence same possessive reason to boast aweke Dr. A. K. Nively, who lives
on them.
4. To Love and Marriage. To be able and willing to make the con- tinuous adjustments that even the happiest marriage demands.
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about them.
If they are pretty, clever, smart - he spoils them.
If not
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in the "child bride district," with an excited telephone call.
Walking Backwards
"The best way to learn to walk well is to walk backwards. Take
"Rush over here, Doc," the voice urged. "My wife's very ill indeed.” "What seems the trouble?" the country doctor asked.
"I Think She's Teething," the ten steps backwards. What hap- pens?" asks an article on keeping as wonderful as his chil-unknown caller replied.
fit. dren should be, he plays.the must-
And rang off. Emotionally he may be Adult, be-obeyed-right-or-wrong father. At Adolescent or Infant. Odds are he heart he dislikes his relatives, is adult in some emotions, adoles- though he may sentimentalise about cent or infantile in others.
them in their absence.
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Well, says the office blonde (who is a little puzzled that anyone should put this question), it all depends where you are. She means to say that, if you start in the middle of
Few are perfectly evenly develop. He likes dangerous, competitive ed in all things. Though if infan: jobs.
I read with interest in a Home a room that is only ten steps across, tile in more than one of the four Interested not so much in a job points, he is unlikely to be adult in well done as in getting the better paper that "general satisfaction is you will probably bang yourself
felt in Dublin at the blowing up against the wall before you of the statue of King George II in finished counting. St. Stephen's Green."
the others.
If one knows and can admit – one's emotional age, it is possible to make oneself grow up.
The World Is His Milk-Bottle
of someone.
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the
have
If successful, he boasts that he
And it might be even worse if is self-made and gives others no What an amazing people these you started to practise on the pave- credit. If unsuccessful,
Irish are, begorra.
ment. She meang all sorts of others have done him down.
Note the words "general satisfac-awful things, that a refined girl Courageous in emergencies, but His social
The emotional Infant is self-cen- apt to be impulsive. tred. All get and no givė. The technique is to impress the strong! world is his baby's bottle. Artists and dominate the weak. Bluff is his are often of this type.
In love, he wants mothering. Na- tural bait for mother-minded slapping.
women.
conception of cleverness.
Outbluffed, he tries a little back-
If he cannot be boss, he will be af- rebel.
He hates old age fights
Give him the attention and fection he craves and he is irresis- tibly charming. Let him not have against it. his own way and he will try every childish trick-from charm or pet- tishness to hysterica to get it.
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The emotional loves himself too much.
Adult neither nor hates others
In
tion."
like her would blush to hear, might So solemn.
be said by the people behind. So it The whole thing struck me as a would be best, she thinks, for the very funny event indeed.
out-of-doors girl, who wants to walk What memories the Irish have
backwards, to use a periscope and George II was, I believe, the great-move with the crowd, great-great-grandfather of our pre- sent King.
I wish some of the Dublin lads would come out here and blow up some of our statues, those moss- covered. memorials which litter Statue Square, a plague of rank. bad sculptural work.
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"It won't be half such fun (she supposes), but it will be much safer.
Henry Ford says that all wealth But then so few of our statues comes from the land, though” any have that political significance that crooner can tell him that pennies He would be jealous of children The world is his workshop and makes the infuriated Irishman reach come from heaven.
for his time-bomb.. because he would want all the playground. mothering.
love he wants a fifty-fifty I am also tickled to see that the Things go wrong and he whines, mate not a Mother, Yes-woman Rome newspapers described the Dublin foolery as "one of a series excuses, wallows in self-pity.. In or Decoration. ·
It was the office blonde who emergencies, he breaks down, If unsuccessful, he realises that of disasters that marred the Coro-
thought that the "Flying Duchess” panics.
one-sided love, is neither fair nor nation.”
Pursuing my policy of concilia was a wife of the Flying Dutch- A Human Sheep -never a practical, works off his disappoint- leader. Except possibly if he has ment, becomes neither bitter nor tion with the Fascist Grand Coun-'man.
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