THE CHINA MAIL, JUNE 15, 1937.
The wrong choice may make two people miserable for life. HENRY HARRIS, the "Daily Mirror” psychologist, has devised this searching -questionnaire to help you make the momentous decision.
YOUR MAN
five is
of work?
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5.
Does he:
ONLY one marriage in states
physician who is a well-known au- thority.
Without being so pessimistic, my own experience convinces me that far too few marriages are as suc- cessful as they should be..
Why?
(a) Regretfully look to the Past
as the happiest time of his life?
the
(b) Hate the Past, dislike
Present, place his only hopes of happiness in the Future? ***· (c) Enjoy the Present, look for- ward to the Future, without regretting the Past?
Because marriage is a job for people with grown-up emotions.
All of us have three ages. Our real age in years. Our intellec- tual age which psychologists can test with fair accuracy. And our emotional age.
You may have a body aged forty, the intellect of a thirteen-year-old, and the emotions of a five-year-old.
People with Peter Pan, emotions -even if they have grown-up bodies and grown-up intelligences cannot hope to make a success of marriage.
How can you test emotional ma- turity? How tell if your fiance has the makings of a successful hus- band?
Here is a questionnaire that may help to give you a clue or two. Na- turally, no paper test can hope to do more.
Tick off the one point in each question that seems to apply most nearly to your fiance.
Keep your ticked-off copy until the key appears to-morrow. It will tell you the emotional age of your fiance. Whether he is likely ta make a good life-mate.
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1. If he saw you enjoying animated conversation with an eligi- ble male merely a friend would he:
(a) Show signs of impatience, jealousy, unfriendliness or rudeness towards the man- or put his arms possessive- ly around you or astenta-
tiously show some other sign of affection?
(b) Sulk, show off, or do some- thing to attract your atten- tion?
(c) Seem contented that you were enjoying the converga- tion?
2. If you had to break a theatre "date" at the last moment, would he:
(a) Argue and try to get you to put the other engagement off?
(b) Pretend to be miserable and play on your sympathy and pity?
(c) Say nothing that might make you feel more guilty about the matter?
3.
G.
Is he:
(a) Over-attached to his mother? (b) Antagonistic to his parents and resentful of any advice from them?
(c) On cordial terms with them --but ready to accept their advice and opinions only on their merits?
7. Does he expect you to: (a) Mother him a lot?
(b) Regard him as a member of the superior sex-your Lord and Master, eventually?
(c) Treat him as a mate fifty-
fifty in all things?
ness or desire to attract at- tention?
(c) Weigh the matter
conscien-
tiously before venturing an opinion?
ception?
consider
(b) Run himself down,
-himself · inferior to his col- leagues and not good enough? (c) Feel reasonably contented but aims to improve his efficiency and position?
18.
Does he.
(a) Easily allow people to spend --money or go to `expense on his account, without appar- ently noticing it?
(b) Spend lavishly and like peo-
ple to know it?
(c) Pay, his whack
gladly but
prefer not to feel indebted or
IS HE THE
MARRYING SORT?
15. Is he:
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(u) Easily influenced by the opinions..of others, inclined to follow rather than lead? (b) Anxious to be boss every
time or else he becomes an. argumentative opponent?
(c) Ready to co-operate with others with equal grace whether he is top man or rank-and-file?
16.
If compelled to make an im- 8. In a mixed party does he portant decision, does he: gravitate towards:
(a) The menfolk particularly? (b) The womenfolk particularly? to (c) Neither particularly, but
the
and most interesting well-intentioned people, with a slight bias towards the op- posite sex?
Does he like to fancy him-
9. self as:
(a) A man's man?
(b) A lady's man?
(c) Doesn't seem to have thought
about it particularly?
10.
(a) Act instantly and impulsive-
ly?
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(b) Become fretful and run around asking people for ad- vice?
(c) Weigh the pros and cons, sleep on it make his decision, .then forget about it?
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17. Does he: (a) Complain constantly about his job, run. down his collea-
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to put others in that posi tion?
In dress, is he:
(a) Finicky fond or mirror-gaz- ing, combing his hair in pub- lic, washing his; hands fre- quently or.- extremely
slovenly?
(b) Apt to over-dress-or cultivate eccentricity in order to. im- press? (c) Neat
not preoccupied
but about clothes? 20. If he dances: (a) Is he dance-crazy and con- temptuous of those who are not so good-or always apo- logising for his bad dancing? (b) Does he think his dancing is better than it really is and become hurt if . you don't agree?
(c) Is he contented with his best and always puts his partner's pleasure: first?
gues, consider them stupid KEEP THIS PAGE UNTIL THE or unfair, almost without ex- KEY APPEARS TO-MORROW.
If you kissed him or show-THE- ed affection in any way-in public, would his reaction be to:
(a) Shrink lest others see him? (b) Puff out his chest and rather enjoy the fact that others are witnessing his powers to in- spire affection?
WORLD GOES BY
(e) Not particularly notice care Rough House
what others may think?
11.
Does he:
By “ULYSSES"
Those tumble-down old cottages
In gardens fair and green,
Sir John Siddeley's gift of Kenil- worth Castle to the nation inevit-Have huddled in the village since
Elizabeth was Queen.
(a) Though friendly, make friend-ably recalls Scott's romantic story ships slowly but they are en-of Amy Robsart, who as you recol- during?
lect was murdered by the wicked Varney, who threw down a heavy oak chest on her after she had fallen through a concealed trap- door.
(b) Take intense likes and dis-
...likes which persist? (c) Develop heavy "crushes" : on people then drop them quick- ly?
12. Does he form his judgments. of people from the fact that they: (a) Have been nice to him? (b) Seem influential, impressive
of important? (c) Have good qualities and merits-even if not always congenial at first?
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13.
When badly disappointed in fer: any way, does he:
(a) Become irritable, blustering,
rude to others?
(b) Become
"whiney,"
pettish,
querulous capricious timid and fretful?
(c) Say nothing at the time, but just carry on with something ! else?
4. Which gives him most satis- faction:
(a) A new thrill, distraction or
adventure?
(b) Getting the better of some-
one?
(c) Making something with his own hands-or-thinking out better was of doing a piece
In conversation, does he pre-
(a) To gossip, or gush-to seem charming so that people will like him or do something for him?
The story chiefly illustrates the inferior stamina of the Elizabethan Girl. Your modern Hockey Girl would have appeared at dinner the same night, pretty furious, flexing her great double muscles ominously and asking Varney what the merry so-and-so he thought he was play- ing at.
Answers adjudged reasonable: (a) "Just keepin' fit, old girl, just keepin' fit.”
(b) As a matter of fact it's a rule of the house, ha! ha!"
(c) "Well, what else is a chap to do in the country on a Sunday
(b) To argue or lay down the night?"
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law-to
· seem
And by their cretonne curtains That flutter in the breeze, Upon a cord there hangs a board |~^Announcing TEAS.
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The bent and humble icottager
With whiskers round his chin, Has left his shack and won't come
back,
With all his kith and kin. Nowashing hangs upon the line,
No shirt or, blue chemise; For ladies fair are living there,
Who all do TEAS.
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And when the week-end weather's
fine,
And cars come out in droves, You'll hear the kettles singing on
A thousand thousand stoves. And all the little cottage homes
Are labelled now with YE'S So frightfully artistic, and
impressive, A few playful clouts, and the They all do TEAS.'
domineer, bluff, bully, tease matter would drop.
become sarcastic of brusque,
so that people may be im- English Landscape
pressed or intimidated?
(c): To discuss rather than ar
gue to be friendly rather than charming or impres- !sive?
14. Is he inclined to.
(a) Say “yes” just out of polite-
̈ness?··
(b) Say "no" out of aggressive-
The stately homes of England,
How beautiful they stand, With gable ends and oaken beams.
All up and down the land. And on their smooth and shaven
- lawns
Where hum the homing bees, Are lots of chairs and tables, for
They all do TEAS.
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For North and South; from Cocker-
mouth
Right down to Plymouth Hoe, They're cutting bread-and-butter
just
As fast as they can go. The pots are standing ready and
The kettles on the hob; For neath the trees they're doing
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At ninepence and a bob.