THE CHINA MAIL FRIDAY SUPPLEMENT, JUNE 11, 1937
Mr. G. S. P. Heywood and his bride, formerly Miss V. R. Wyatt, leaving St. Andrew's Church un- der the arches of scouting poles, after their wedding last week. (Ming Yuen).
day.
(Right) Some of the visitors to Stanley for the formal enclosing of the Carmelite Monastery on Sun-
("Mail" photo).
A group of spectators at the Kowloon Riding School watching the competitions held last Saturday.
ANGELICA'S husband popped
his head round the door. "I'm going to the pictures, want to come?” he said casually. "No thanks, dear,” replied his "hope you have good time. She turned away front door slammed to find her friend's
face a mixture of sympathy and horror.
"Do you mean to say," whisper- ed. her shocked friend in a stifled voice, "that you don't mind?”.
"Mind," answered Angelica mystified. "Why on earth should I mind? If I had wanted to go to the pictures nothing would have prevented me, but I have a head- ache. Surely that's no reason why Jim should miss the show if he wanted to see it.”
"Well, if my husband went off to the pictures and left me, I should be terribly hurt," answered the ocked one with an expres- sniff and rather a superior as though her attitude show- ed a proper spirit, and a “sensi- tive" nature.
SENSITIVE NATURES
How well we know those sensi- tive natures, which make their owners impossible to live with.
As a matter of fact, she was nothing more nor less than a good example of the possessive woman who wants to own her husband, - her friends, her chil- dren, dominate their personalities, make herself the centre of their lives.
Angelica is one of the happiest women I know. She is forty, looks thirty, and has the serene expression of one to whom life has brought contentment. She adores her husband and son,
but respects their freedom to an ex tent which scandalises women who
Minnie Pallister shows you the danger of becoming
POSSESSIVE
WOMAN
think that love must be chained:
SPOONFED BY MOTHER
One of her neighbours thought it her duty to take her to task. about the freedom she
allowed her young son.
“You'll regret it,” she said, “he is learning to do without you, you lose him and he'll be sure to
be sure to get married."
"I hope he will," returned Angelica.
"I intend to see that my Harold never marries,” was the retort. The wretched Harold is now nine- teen, still being spoon-fed by “mother,” and metaphorically in a high chair,
erally spends some hours away at business, there is some hope of a son breaking away, even from the tenacious claws of a possessive mother, but what of the unfor- tunate daughters?
SUPPRESSION
One day two nice women came to tea. They sat on the edge of the sofa; their whole attitude and conversation reminded me for- cibly of that of two rather sup- pressed schoolgirls. Yet they were women in the thirties, quite good looking, not depressed by poverty, because t they were well off. There are four of them al- together, none of them married, all of them with that depressed, hushed air, as though they were in a sickroom, and
2 very,
very often in their conversation the
#vecords "mother" crops up.
It seems incredible that any sane woman would deliberately announce her intention of forcing a son to live a starved, incomplete - existence, solely because she wants his society and attention, but nothing is incredible where wo men of this type are
concerned One of two things in a case like this is likely to happen.. Either the man gives in, and spends the best years of his life dancing, at tendance on an ageing woman, or, compelled to carry on his experi ments in furtive love-making, he marries the most unsuitable wo- man within reach. Either his life is
should be.
shadow of what it
Owing to the fact that he gen-
MOTHER BUYS HER HATS
I met another girl. the other day who wears the most appalling. hata. Mother insists on buying. them for her as if anyone in the world could buy someone else hat.
I get letters from girl mothers insist on- letters, who always- every detail of their who don't like me to evening because she company
Even these are nothin
the
("Mail" photo)
despairing letters from middle- aged women whose youth and energy * have been-- absorbed their mothers, and who find them- selves leff with no career, few interests, as strange to the outside world from which they have been cloistered as though “they had landed from another
planet
These possessive women have, as a rule, lived fully themselves, known love, marriage and child- ren, and yet as their own vitality lessens they are "not ashamed to rob their children of the natural gifts of life for their own selfish satisfaction.
I have even known women, not content, with their own families, make insufferable – derhands on their friends tolerating no rival claims. These ____women have a circle of friends whom they fit into their lives like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle, the friends seldom meet, they are played off one against each other.They must always be on tap when they are needed. If A cannot be "in at- tendance then B or C must. Why do they stand for it?
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That is just the mystery. These possessive women have an extraordinary - power of making other people feel it their duty friendship,
to give their love, tirne and society,
Yet I do not enw these women. Just because they grab at love it
eludes them As they grow older they become more insatiable and discontented as the years g
It is the Angelicas of the world, who can love devotedly yet grant their loved ones utter f eedom, who get their reward sa spon taneous return
the
sessive affection.