Canon HUGH WARNER
the Church of England's marriage
adviser-writes hle raguter column
HUSBANDS and WIVES
"H
E brawls, hits me is really at the mercy of her emo- about, and is al-ons and suffering from loss of ways going about
with other women.
will power.
"I have been beyond crying Int Kix I can't and quarrelling think that the strain is years. If I leave my husband, good for our two children," wh hope in there of getting rooms for myself and four child- writes Mrs A. "Shall I ren? My husband is delish. lie break the home up and never does a thing to help st home, refuses enough money to divorce him?"
clothe the children or give them toys. He just sits and reads andd spends more on his hair than I am the four children ever do."
Your husband has already broken up your home. Your duty is to leave him for the sake of the children, but whether you do this by taking out a separation order ngainst him or by divorce needs some clear thinking.
Are you going to take the long view or the short one?
If you take the lung view you may say: "Suppose enough wo- men were to follow my example and refuse to divorce their his bands, we should suffer because we should be denying ourselves the chance of marrying again.
But the self-sacrifice is worth making for the sake of my child- ren and other children.
H
Here Mrs C. is faced not with unfaithfulness, but simple crazs
She bas been selfishnes heroine, for she has not let her tragedy affect her children by letting the neighbours know of her trouble, Neither medicine nor psychiatry
eshte. There's the rub.
сли Cver cure
Some people are naturally un- selfish, others only become so pro- when they undergo that found chaite technically called
conversion."
THE HONGKONG TELEGRAPH, SATURDAY,
APRIL 22, 1950.
"Quick! Run and tell Mum that Dad's laying in a stock of his Scotch pals ready for a hinge tonight.”
-London Express Service}
'TOO MANY TAKE-IT-EASY TYPES WHERE WE NEED 'EM TOUGH'
Cushy-Job Brigade
the
I knew a man who was the embodiment of selfishness, who "They would grow up into n world where the present casual finally erashed and, unable to
LIKE looking on was then the shame of his fall, tried allitude
marriage to
suicide. From the debris of his changed.
"When their early married dis- life he rose, made his confession along they in church, was 'confirmed, and agreements come
A divorce will
11
By man.
Your
h
bright side of life. When you make that your job you find the work is full of the
But sometimes it's the other way round. Some-
will not feel trampled to the sand is committing brightness, often in up the sponge,
moral suicide, but any patient
most unsuspected places. he no longer the done thing.
remedy for Their subsequent married to who will be all the stronger through maral news must remain free their having faced marriage's to the. If you are, as you tell me, 11 Christian to the best of your teething troubles sensibly.
To divorce Iny husband ability you will pray for his on would make it possible for them version. I may yet crash so to any: Well, dad and num did badly that your patient standing ing by may be the power which it, so I can't be much wrong!"
Or you may
take the short helps lm to rebuild his life. view, "My happiness is the chief..
Why Life is short. thing. shouldn't I get as much out of
Despotic
it us 1 can? If by divorcing Y 6Y HUSBAND has bought a husband I make my contribution M
the general instability
to
of
television rel" writer
a disgrace
to Britain
One of these old-timers is He
times in equally unsuspected world they are scrambling places you find that things for cushy jobs with the a man called Grogan. are not as they ought to be.
So prepare, for once, for
a moan, because I am now going to make one.
I think that too many of
Government.
We can spare these people at home all right, but enn the Empire afford them?
help build the Uganda Railway. man and Now he's a wealthy
owner of a store in Nairobi.
"I
"Do you know," he said, could give you the names of at fantiles who least 20 Bittish
owę me so much for their gro- ceries and quor that they have and ask me for per- to come
back to England nasion to Lo en leave?"
It is not nice when you hear from another country compatriots like
of cotirse,
two.
lives in a great white palace people
talk of your on the Kenya side of Kill- that, especially when you know manjaro, and they say he's that what they say is true. a millionaire.
there have been changes in the Colonial As a young man he walk- "reat
Just as it is post-war from Cape Town to Empire in the last generation or I've knocked around the ed
the Dreudo-pioneers young people's lives, I don't mess night the lite the wrong kind of people Empire a lot in my life, and Cairo just to prove to his Britnin
father-in-law leave behind, so it is a post- darkness). We can't afford more are going out to the Empire. I always used to feel proud prospective
The days when it was ruled than one fire. My daughter can. There was a time Britons of the inheritance. It was that he was worthy of his war Empire they come to.
#3 conquered Only you can make this choice not do her homework and mend-emigrated because life at an outlet for people of spirit. daughter's hand. between the long and the short
Was too tame for Now it's in danger of be view. It is not my business to impossible for me. He says home make it for you, ar to blame you as so little time at home. them. Now half when you have munde it. Your is going to break up family choice, not my opinion, is what Inatters.
why I should be blamed. They
must look after themselven."
"M
Emotional
me
FRIENDS tell writes Mr 1 "that i
to out the insists on complete
In spite of his TV, your hus- band is mid-Victorian. He still thinks that the husband must
of them coming a funk-hole.
go because it's too tough.
In the old days the men and women who built up
men
territory aru
Library's 150th |
Birthday
By JOHN W. FINNEY
The U.S. Library of Con- dated out of more than 7,000,000
gress is celebrating its 150th items received. birthday anniversary.
When
Included in this mammoth col- lection is the largest group of established in Chinese books and manuscripts
1800, the library was little outsile China and Japan; the more than a book-lined read- largest collection of Russian ma- terial outside the USSR; the larg- ing room in the Sennte wing
maps and charts est collection of the Capitol,
in the world: the largest law brary in the United States and Today it is the world's the greatest number of books largest storehouse of in- printed during the first half con formation. It occupies the tury of printing, prior to 1500,
in the Western hemisphere. two largest buildings on
To house the library's collec- earth devoted exclusively to library purposes. The build- tion, two buildings were con Ings are jammed with the structed at a cost of $18,130,030 and covering 1334 neres Within great collection.
the buildinga are 1,503,189 square feet of floor space and 250 miles Librarian Luther IT Evans of steel "stacita" already in place. said in his annual report that in the catalogue room there are while the services of the library0,000,000 cards disposed in 10,000 to scholar and trays and growing at a rate of aro avaliable casual render, the "Library of 250,000 cards a year. Congress belongs to Congress." It is Congress' source of infor- mation and counsel in all fields -economie, social and legal. Il ear and does answer almost any question puzzling to Congress
mell.
STATISTICS COMPILED Evans, in honour of the an- niversary, compiled sanie Infor mation about the library.
CITIZENS PAY FOR IT
The Hbrary's annual mainten-
of five ance for last year was the equiva lent of a per capita tax cents on every citizen, according to librarian Evans. Obligations during the incurred actually year amounted to $8,030,470,
On Its 150th anniversary, the
appro-
A special legislative reference library represents a total invest- service was established in 1013 ment et $117,717,629 of public to answer inquiries from Con- monter. It has received Rressmen. Last year, the service priations totalling $9,054,262 for received and answered an all- the purchase of materials for its and from 1102- time high of 22,652 Congres collections.
gifts of sources sional queries. More than 3,000 government requests were received in March money totalling $0,405,624, Inione.
This ane-month total
Besides Congressmen, 806,069. was 50 percent higher than the annual total of questions a readers used 2,142,053 units of inside tho library Material quarter of a century ago.
buildings Inst year, and an addi- The questions, answered by tional 238,108 loans were made. a leam of specialists, covered a The total circulation wide field. They ranged from library Increased 3% the tribal rights of the Cheyenne- over the previous year. the Fort Arapaho Indians on Reno military reservation to in- ternational control of the navi- gation of the Danube River.
of
the
percent
HISTORY POPULAR
Readers were chiefly interested The Ibrary's researchers have in the history of America, with access to an estimated total of the histeries of other peoples, and 27.560,873 pieces, exclusive of with the new selences and tech- newspapers nologies. A decline of interest 2,274,407 unbound and
parts of periodicals and was noted in general works, statisties and naval and military serials awaiting binding.
sciences.
ALWAYS EXPANDING
Evans report noted a rising Where's that spirit now? Kone,
In international and This collection includes 8,689,- Interest The accent is on co-operation Don't we breed people like
in making co-operation
+630 volumes and pamphlets, foreign affairs in nearly every that any more? There are now,
11,320,000 manuscripts and 128,- division of the library. Indicativo who'd the undeveloped land produce precious few
055 bound newspaper volumes, was the fact that readers in the the food the world so urgently walk from Cape to Cairo
Maps, rcela of microfilm and mo- Slavic room totalled 6,651, more wonts.
tion pictures, printed and other than twice the number for the today to prove anything.
can't do this with play- You
recorded music, prints and other preceding year. An increase in
work lay down the law, and his family the Empire sought riches,
in the research It's much easier for one boys, Dill dodgers, runaway
photographic copies are among the or would-to submit to his almighty will.
Japanese and Far Eastern divi- the items included. If he wants to be up to date adventure, and the thrill of
You need real
sions also was noted. to learn the 20th creating something out of THEY held an inquiry into
the cost of living in bad hat to spoil the reputa- pleasure seekers, he will have
By virtue of copyright laws, is no use blaming my wife for century family pattern. Here, nothing. They may
it is for one good men more than ever, real men
The library will open the first exchange agreements, and direct
of sesquicentennial her goings-on with men. They each member
and euch been swashbucklers, some Nairobi the other day, and tion of a whole group than feucial barons,
acquisitions, the vast collection of a series the victim ef her
man to enhance it. married to the right women, she is
father, mother and each say
If we can't produce them we
Last exhibits on April 24. Other ex- is constantly expanding.
and programmes are emotions, and you can't even by
Life is like that. counts for pric.
year the library added 1,557,400 hibits law, control the emotions."
good hall lose our colonial inheri- There
pieces of all categories to its scheduled throughout the year If my emotion of anger com-
men who have sold tance, and deserve to lose 11 ton,
collection, selected and consoli- United Press. -London. Express Service. pels me to strike a child and hurt him, is my solicitor going to
up everything and plead in court: "le was the vic-
gone to rough it on
tim of his emotions and therefore ought not to be punished"?
An effective deterrent to losing control of your emotions is the fear of consequences. That is have capital punish
why wa ment
have
-by- Each has of them, but they had the
special contribution to make to stamp of greatness, and the riches of the whole. Each they left their mark behind has a right to equal considera-them.
tion.
Meanwhile try going in to a Now what so many of the neighbour armed with your bus "pioneers" seek is the soft band's socks and underclothing:
BERNARD WICKSTEED
are
for a sewing evening sometimes.life they can no longer get one of the witnesses was the groundnut scheme. But
her homework with
a friend.
re also plenty of
to our
e con hardly complain Your at home, some last strong a housewife married to a there daughter might drop in to share hold where they can live railway official. She listed duds who do harra
car, a sub pioneers. Leave your husband to his relt. like feudal barong in pala- among her necessities five gourd name and the real
venings.
The tial homes tended by hordes servants and a Criminal proceedings against chosen fourly eve
scription to a club for her
What does the African think your wife, however, would not novelty will wear off. He will of retainers. be of use to her faintly. They then enjoy all the mure those Instead of adventure they husband, and two visits at these newcomers, the African would certainly be a healthy
evenings when you are all able
ease and week to the cinéma (at 4s. who has been promised that the white man will tend him from delerrent to other men and wo-
security, instead of enrich- i. n reat)..
the Stone Age to the world of men who talk rubbish about to sit at the set at the week-are looking for
and agricul- Red
If the wives of the men modern industry who built the railway 50 lure? years ago had insisted on such things it wouldn't have been finished yet.
their emotions. Probably psycho- logical treatment is nerded if she
SAT
.
(London Express Service)
i themselves
The lady just walked out
WHENEVER I'm in the meatballs
W mood for
me
by
BILLY ROSE
"At
the
eight-thirty Mr. Burke says they better get going. but
He can't think much.
What docs the industrious Indian trader of Afrien think? of Or the Chinese bushesa man of
the Far East?
In
highlands the Southern Tanganyika 2 month ago I was shown a European farm. At least, that's what the retired colonel who owned it said it was. Actually it was
no
CAN tell you what one Indian
more a farm than a stock. I thinks, because he told me,
broker's home in Surrey.
He said: "The people of Bri- tain are the greatest in the There was a magnificent world. They have a sense of the girl says there is no rush house on it, a vegetable fair play that the world needs
now more than ever. the ballet she wants to see most,
"But please can you tell me, Carmen, does not go on until garden, and some cows for the "farmer's" own usc,
Newspaperman, why are Mr most ten. "Skip the advertising,” I zaid. "So he orders
come more For the rest, his interests they so awful when they leave Is it that the mad dog "First thing I noticed," the brandy and by the time the were in polo, golf, and the home?
of an Englishman can't stund on," that check is paid it is nearly eleven. social life of a nearby club.
the sun any more?" "Then Miss Hurlbert asks the
This Indian was the son of a fellow Yet that
coolle who went to Africa to spent an hour telling me About the difficulties of a setller in the post-war world.
that sing and fiddles that Bob, I amble over to a small restaurant in the East GO's where Joseph, the maitre l', usually lets have my head walter went
Mr Burke is not looking at the favourite table-the
menu as much as he is looking with the tablecloth.
a girl sitting in a booth. She young man to go out and get a
rab. And while he is gone she!
"This
is is a Aliss Hurlbert, who eats slips out the side door." said to him here two, three times a week- the other night as I began to eat very pretty, with two forks.
stuffed cabunge
really something.".
une
"Finally, Mr Burke makes up "Thank you," said Joseph, his mind about something and "Perhaps you might mention it goes over to her table.
"Nothing wrong happened, Mr "WHY did she ditch him?" I
in your column sometime."
asked. "I'm not sure," sald Joseph,
same
Later I flew over the farm and saw that it was no саве. For 20
"I'd be glad to," I said, "If I Burke was very-how do you
being too say?-gallant, and he explains "but this is how I figure. This isolated can do it without
10 the girl that the friend he Miss Hurlbert is paralysed in minutes my plane passed Anything happen obvious.
she walks above rich green country around here lately which I could had a date with had to leave the legs, and when
town, and if, by any chance, she she uses a brace and cane.
that could have been help write about?"
us to engagement, he would be
would take "At first, when the gentlemaning to feed the world in- honoured if she
iner with him and then, per acted so nice, she couldn't help stead of a handful of fugi- making believe that everything tive colonels trying to live in haps, show And maybe cabaret.
was all right, and for once she was going to have the kind of the past.
"Nothing very exciting," said the mafire d. "lowever, on New Year's Eve-but no; that was not a funny story."
"Suppose you tell it, anyhow," I Enid.
"WE KELL, to begin at the begin- Bing," said Joseph, "about seven o'clock on New Year's Eve a ir Burke comes into the restaurant.
"At first Mas Hurlbert says evening she has been thinking of no thanks, but when she sees for a long time. But then she that Mr Burke is a very nice realised it couldn't be that young man, sho says lie con when she stood up. Mr Burke
over and they would see she was lame." Lring his drink will talk about it.
"And the next thing, he in "If the young man tasting her paprikas and she is nico na you say, I'm sure he tasting his goulash.
was us
LD-TIME
高釀
settlers
of nouldn't have backed out," 10 East Africh, or any-
"When they finished dinner, said. "A very nice young man, this Mr Burke. He spends most of Mr Burke orders brandy in the his time in Canada-I think he'a big snifter
"I think the girl knew this, where else in the Empire, glasses and they too." said the malite d', "but it's didn't work like that. They in the mining business-but a discuss what they will do that my belief she walked out on him went out in ox wagons to
few times a year he files to New night.
he
for would
to
because she knew he hadn't
she come all the way from Toronto stake their claims, and at- see to spend New Year's Eve with a tended to their fences be at the Winter cripple."
fore changing their tent for! la house.
Miss Hurlbert Bays York for a hollday, and then
first ke comes here alwoya the goulash. The goulash in French ballet Toronto, he says, in not so good Garden, and then maybe as the goulash in the Eart 00's," drink, at the '21', club,
#
-London Express" Servios.
POCKET CARTOON
by OSBERT LANCASTER
"Nozinse, my dear Achmet I
It's been conclusively proved that Vey're purely subjective no basis Dit nomena, with whatever in scientiño fact!"
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