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THE HONGKONG

TELEGRAPH,.

MONDAY,

JULY

You in Love?

Continuing her series on managing a love affair DORIS LANGLEY MOORE today discusses

With all the strongest and most ruthless men. a very occasional "scene" will prove a wholesome corrective

Commentary

to be read when you have studied the questions

GROUP I

And if

of effect,

26,

1938.

The Affair Under Difficulties

In every love affair of magnitude there is a critical period-a time of difficulties, sometimes emotional, sometimes imposed by circumstances -which, if not managed skilfully, may result in a final parting. Once overcome, however, these obstacles

leave love much stronger than before (though it is true the first thrilling| ardour will probably have subsided). The questionnaire for to-day is côn- cerned with good and bad ways of getting through the danger zone.

Questionnaire 5

Group I FOR MEN

OR WOMEN

1

Are you nervously sensitive

1

To the approach of trou- bles"

ly,

Do you take the initiative in ruising difficulties from the sheer fear that the other person might "get in first"?

Group

FOR MEN

OR WOMEN

Group K FOR MEN

OR WOMEN

FL

Do you guard against taking Will you endure almost any- transient impulses serious- thing rather than make

the scene? either in yourself or other person?

2 Conversely, do you plunge. into explanations and dis- dif- cussions when you know in your heart that it would be better not to put your grievances into Do you know what you want words? and take a firm, clear line?

2 Do you show a strong de termination to resist

fleulties when they arise

3

Do you adopt a provocative attitude--hinting that you wit go off with somebody else. for instance-in order to gain a victory?

3

mournful self-pity?

a wrong-

Are you unable to control Can you forgive

your tongue when quarrel- doing casually instead of ling? (That is to say, do you general rankle to making a "grand gesture" of find yourself casting resort ever Do you

aspersions which will 4

afterwards instead of sticking threats, politely veiled.or it? otherwise, which you secretly

Are you guided in your tac- to the matter in hand?)

realisation- tica by this As to Questions 3 and 4, it know you would not or could not

that as the lover has behaved to 4 is it hard for you to be- have with good humour af is nearly always wise to abstain carry out?

FL definite

ter a losing battle? FOU have an excellent from throwing out

may behave to you? You

chance of bringing your challenge, for that is likely to 5 Are you given to moods of some former love, so he (or she)

ul forth resistance. love out of the danger zone your challenge falls unscathed if you can an your position will be very obvi-

weakened. When the making allowance for passing the lover. Weak, wavering, and. swer "No" to four out of ously

be one you humours. In all emotional re- uncertain methods are not only the five questions in this threat happens to

cannot carry out the result at lationships there are phases of ineffectual in themselves, but best is to provoke affectionate reaction and recoil produced by will show you up to very great group.

Last counsels-never let the Consider the first two, for laughter; at worst, your bluff the unusual tension of feeling. disadvantage.

may be called with humiliating Such distburbances should never be exaggerated into a cause for

object of your love feel under example: To look for trouble consequences.

parting.

an uncomfortable sense of obli- is generally to find it. In-

Finally, beware of self-pity,

Those mysterious impulses to gation towards you: when you deed, it is almost better not particularly when

not at all, to recognise trouble when it itself in fits of heavy depression, renounce each other, those be- are called upon to forgive, for-

over- Gloom is infectious and will soon nighted moods in which last give generously or than to be

magic seems to have even if it means that you must the reiterated gratitude send your lover to seek a cure night's

sudden, chilly death forgo sensitive to its approach. elsewhere. Strained brightness med

That ancient counsel about is, of course, equally undesira- give yourself time to discover which you feel is your duc.

are before how genuine they

And when you hear his for taking the offensive when you ble.

you act on them. You will not

her) confidences about former: fear to be attacked has given rise to a vast amount of strife and misery between individuals

comes

it expresses

GROUP ]

often regret having waited. attachments, try not to feel exultation. This group calls for affirma- When real and tangible proh. either jealousy or

resolute but look upon these remini- as well as between nations, and in love it is by means a tives, especially to the first lems beset

them will scences as a useful object lesson. I have already manner dignified policy. To act upon three questions.

touched on the necessity of greatly enhance your value to Character may be modified, but fear can never be dignified.

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ALLEY OOP

WELL, WELL, WELL! ISN'T THIS

A PLEASANT SURPRISE! YES,WEVE

I SEE YOUVE GOT OOP'S,

DINOSAUR, TOO!

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BEEN SEARCHING

FOR ODP FOR DAYS, HAVE YOU SEEN HIM, BY ANY CHANCE?

AW, THECK WITH HIM! HE'S

STOOD BETWEEN YOU'H TELL ME ME LONG ENOUGH, BUT WHAT'S SO NOW... HER REH

HAH, HAH!!

FUNNY, SO

WE CAN BOTH

LAUGH!

you,

of facing

By Vincent Hamlin

SHUX,COOLA-WHY WASTE TIME LOOKIN' FOR THAT/OH-, BUM WHEN Y’GOT A

SO YOU GOOD LOOKIN' FELLER/HAVE SEEN

HIM, HAVEN'T LIKE ME?

You?

SAY, AIN'TCHA SCARED?

SCARED? WHY, DOOTSY IS THERE ANYTHING AROUND HERE TO BE SCARED OF?

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1935 BY HEA SKAVICE ING.

it never changes completely, -and, if you listen carefully, you I will gain knowledge which may Įstand you in good stead.

GROUP K-FOR WOMEN

If you can reply to these questions with a sincere nega- tive, you are a shrewd and well- balanced woman, and your lovel affair is not likely to come to an ignominious end."

You are aware that, although it is foolish to meet difficulties half-way, once they have actu ally arisen it, will generally- even a violent quarrel--than to go on in a state of mute suffer- ing, for that will make you dreary through and through; and prolonged dreariness is more damaging than brief an- ger.

With all but the strongest and most ruthless mon, a very occasional "scene" will prove a wholesome corrective. (I am assuming, naturally, that you have good grounds for it, and are not merely gratifying an instinct for drama.)

But it is a real folly to bring your grievances to light when there is no reasonable purpose to be served by it. My advico! is always when in doubt, say nothing..

The conclusion which follows

BARBS

A COUPLE in Texas recently got married by telephone. Now if they'll just keep things that way they'll probably live happily forever after.

Comes a story of a German

Wears who

two woodworker artificial legs and an artificial arm of his own manufacture. A self-made man.

A monkey who arrived here from Europe the other day was He had immediately deported. threatened to lecture.

Within 20 years, according to a statistician, there will be no horses in England. That puller- ing you hear can probably be traced to the fox holes.

A motorist looked down the other day to find an adder bealde him. In less time than it takes to tell, the two had changed post- tions, and the man was beside himsel

(Copyright, 1918, NEA Service, Ina)

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THIS CURIOUS WORLD Ferguson

COPA 1930 NEA BERVICE, ING

SCAP BUBBLES RISE INTO THE AIR BECAUSE YOUR WARM BREATH INSIDE THEM IS LESS DENSE THAN THE COOLER

AIR OF THE ROOM.

FOR YEARS, CHINESE RAZORS WERE MADE OF OLD, WORN-OUT HORSE SHOES,

FROM

HAMBURG GERMANY)

THE CHINESE BELIEVED THAT THE HÄMMERING ON THE COBBLED STREETS OF HAMBURG GAVE THE SHOES A PERFECT TEMPER, AND THEY WOULD NOT BUY

FROM ANY OTHER CITY

The HUMMINGBIRD

HAS A TUBE-LIKE TONGUE, FOR SUCKING UP NECTAR

FROM FLOWERS.

4-29

HAMBURG once was the old horseshoe center of the world, and It all came about by accident. Ships sailing from Hamburg to China began carrying loads of old Horseshoes as ballost, but me Chinese found that the shoes could be cut in two, and ground into razors. But only shoes shipped from Hamburg found a market.

Are YOU using JUST

Tookpa

Pepsodent RIUM

OUR BRITISH CROSSWORDS

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ACROSS

5 Many go to cut (0).

8 Former product of ripe

(8).

9 Hardly an eye-opener (6).

lins

10 The quick way to the shingle?

(two words-5, 3).

11 Does this bring

home? (0).

the

homer

12 Bound to change one's food ha-

* bits (4).

14 Wrong is right here (3).

th In this there are speaking Ike-

nesses locally (6)."

10 The organ can provide the start. of this unpleasant noise (8). 10 Complete, but finally crude (8). 23 Wherein one is certainly 12

across (7).

20 One who does not agree with

one (3).

27 This may denote a new depar-

ture (4).

28 "Tonic gas" (anog.) · (8).

20 This may bring back golden memories to old-timers (8).

31 Dish for a cricket lunch? (0). 32 Hardly retrousse, talicing of

noses (3),

33 Does not refer to a vocal solo

(6),

DOWN

1 Out of date (7).

2. "Sit, Dear" (anag.) (7),

3 Give it copper to get some

brass (4).

4. Wherein many a man has risked

the stake (7).

5 Favourite spot for motor meet-

ings, (10)

This suppresses a syllable '(7).'

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7 Were I to leave this bit of Italy two vessels would remain (7). 12 Soundly instructed in no loose

manner (4).

13 It may

(4)

come from the cholr

14 To do with the make-up (10). of confession 17 Ungrammatical

ago by an animal (4).

18 All that matters, really (4). 20 The contents of the will-tub

21 I curtless this bird might dig

(7).

22 Nice present for a prisoner in the dungeon (two words-4, 3),

24 With ease (7)

25 Depressing effect of vice on

royalty (7),

30 Can this for a star (4).

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