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THE HONGKONG
TELEGRAPH.
WEDNESDAY, AUGUST
11,
1937.
E. ARNOT ROBERTSON, famous authoress, reviewing many which robbed and rejected. women have said recent cases in "I Love Him Still," laments
H
WIVES who WILL
Forgive
IT over the head with chair, a wife in Ken- Lucky recently begged
оп her husband charge of assault on the grounds that it was just his childish
temper.
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(The naughty-naughty, he had already done it before, in a at of annoyance. She forgave him at once, and the court, as usual, failed to connect, as pos- sible cause and effect, her in- duigent air of "Men are just big babies," and his extreme and repeated exasperation.)
He was returned to her with a caution.
Accused of ombezzling money, which he spent on a girl friend, an English husband-still more recently-prevalled on his wife to raise on her life Insurance the sum to be repaid, in order to keep him out of prison.
He then spent this on the girl as well, and suggested to the wife that she should ball him
when Out
retribution came: He must have which she did. known she would: how much Irritation was mixed up, in bls mind, with the comfort of that certainty?
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☆
OW' a
magistrate. Macbeth. has expressed himself as amazed by the long-suffering "Women who are of wives. badly treated by the men they love," he said, "but still go on
-To-day's Thought
A MAN may know the world
without leaving his home.
otra
--LAO-TEZE
loving them, constitute one of the world's greatest mysteries." Surely not! Like Journalists. word who cannot keep the "amazing" away from the word "revelations," magistrates seem to live in a slate of perpetuat surprise over the more obvious facts about human nature.
Some of us, as wives, are angels; some are not; but all of us know the advantage of the superior moral position. To err is certainly human, but to for- Hive is divine only, as a rule, for the forgiver.
In our spiritual trade union as wives it is recognised that, do wrong by us once, and with a ittle good-womanly manage- ment you can be made to pay for it indefinitely.
HAVE often thought that one of the great- est deterrents to mar- inge, for a young man, should be the reports, day after day, which newspapers, .in. th
prove the almost impossibility of alienating the love of a technically good woman once she has started on a course of forgiveness, whether that for- giveness is wanted or not.
In the case which amazed the magistrate, the weeping wife in the witness-box went so far as to sue the man for arrears of maintenance, but repented in He had strayed away, and then returned to make love to her promising to turn over a new land.
Couri
When she went to vist him. she found, lying about, letters from women showing that since his last declaration to her, he
E. ARNOT ROBERTSON
had deserted one and offered But on marriage to another.
her pleading, the magistrate let him off the penalty for non- payment, on the understanding that he would now make a home for his wife.
What else could he do but atrce?
Most of the wives I know would behave in the same way In the same circumstances and my heart goes out, however wrongly, to the man who has had his new leaf Lurned over for him by order of the court. It may be that the magistrate We justified in bis a surrance, to the inband, that a wife chan this was worth all the casual girls he met.
B
WILS
not the UT it maristrate who faced The ordeal of a home
fe of enforced gratitude - and it is so much pleasanter to be wronged than to be put in the wrong. for ever!
The glutinous quality of our
We Can Do Without
Words We
"DIFFERENT
fox.
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expressions
By Lady
lowest haunts of the East End; but no. It is probably a gathering of the
Ill-treated affection must be- aimost unbearable, at come times, to a man who has done everything he can think of, ex- cept murder, to free himself from it. It is not, however, a mystery.
In one of the three cases mentioned did the man neglect his wife, and that is the whole He hit, robbed or explanation. deceived her, returning amor- ously at intervals.
And that, as the magistrate ought to have known, is nothing like enough to nienate most of
Only prolonged neglect will do it, ns a rule: the divorce court proves thai as often as the magistrates' courts prove that ill-treatment will not: and the man's offence, in each of these three cases. was a long way from Inattention.
But neglect is really very difficult to achieve. In most domestic cle- cumstances, where financial pres- sure will make it hard for a man to leave his wife.
T the Arst sign of it, if we are of the [althful fanatically
Lype so often commended, we can subtly create that oppres- sive atmosphere of forgiveness. past and present, and then, long before the necessary amount of neglect is reached, normal male
Benson, Bright Young Things in the West ill-temper is likely to step in.
WIFE OF THE VETERAN ACTOR
vogue a "Definitely"
came into
These
Ers
Then you ill-treat us, one way by
or another, not necessarily
HOW I KEEP FIT
TF
By Freh: Carilale)
were expected to give a direct answer to the question, "How do you krep fi?" I fear, it would be "I really don't know."
In its modern signiflennce the min physical question calls to exercises organised to turn what is a C3 cometimes supposed to be nation into a nation of A physlent standards. My frat birthday was over 90 years ago, and so I belong to a generation in which that sort of physical exercise was hardly over mentioned.
I was not a strong boy and, owing weakness in the to n pronounced back many games were forbidden me. Had my birthday been 1937 instead the school expéct of 1847, 1 authorities would have sent me lo a sort of remedini some clinic for exercises. I am not going to say that such exercises would have killed me off, but they could hardly have given me a longer or more interesting say "interesting life" nd- life. I viaedly.
Exercise in my young days came to us in more or less compulsory form. I lived a good Bye miles from my place of business. I was keen on making a fortune, and running to and fro saved time; and time was money.
and
I
Later, I picked up a novelty called velocipede, which, had wooden wheels, iron tyres, and no springs. On it I could race the horse omnibus, that left a seat free in suppose one of those rare vehicles for some business competitor. I expect but
few
who very. very comfortably settled down on the bus Later on,I found have outlived me. it pleasant and helpful to go to the office on horseback.
those of
Power Of Interest
But in recounting those methods of setting to business and in seeing in them forms of exercise. I do not wish to over-estimate or to under- estimate their effcet in keeping and making me it. They were all quite subsidiary and incidental to business of life.
the
my
money was then Making usiness in life, and I found it very But I am sure interesting indeed. of this also, that the interest of life to do with from that angle had more keeping me going than the exercise. however strenuous, of tetting back- wards and forwards from Brixton to City.
have never overcome that weak- ness in the back, and I have never any considerable beat able to Hift
ground. weight very far from the But when all is said and done, who professional perhaps (except
a Ir manual weight-lifter worker does want to lift heavy weights a great distance from the Certainly not the ordinary Kround? inan with a purpose in life.
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I have had some big illnesses in The first came to me in Buy life. 1877, and it was the direct result of constant and the business losses
Life ambition was anxiety. quenched, and I all but died.
ave died had it not should perhaps have hen for another paramount interest
all use that coming to me. To fashioned but wonderfully true and was converted, accurate word, I Life loaked up again and took interests.
new
In 1883. I was knocked down In months. the gutter, kicked about, and con- sequently lald up for six
But the Church Army had been born in
1882,
and I had to live for it, Besides, the fight in it and for it interested me and made me fit again. I curry the marks of that conflict to this day.
physical force, and we have got Grip Recovered you again, helplessly.
The law wonders aloud that women as Aue as we are can go on loving men like you, and you are ordered back to duty.
in
different times,
ns it did each time, apparently. mannera"--and how absurd it is to cavil at the changes. For In
What is the word meant to ex- in the case of the Kentucky
No-the other couplc. Inany cases, when you take a back-
press Irritating?
did not irritate my young ward glance, you realise how very
Kiesta Ettle difference there is between
a strong that was not things that we now decry, such as
of the few years ago, and was used ad na friend, she simply thought the party expression of her boredom. the current "Bright Young Things" and those scam, simply to express the afirma- dull, but which years ago youth (then called tive. How this ridiculous affeelation enough
suppose she and her friends convey- "the young folk") was reprimanded come into being is hard to under- "Lousy" was more seathing, and I
stand,
of language ed all they wished by this term.
the dictionary, unpure," tells me, eccentricities
"you!" the Word
More women than nien are mur- for instance,
or other coins a word which means "thy." When you come to think are as infectious as measies. Some-
little or nothing and im- but surely if the play I heard criti-
been all these deres every year, but not as many signifies
nore ng might be expected, I think, of it, it is far more absurd than the one
yet in Vic mediately the whole of the younger elsed as "foul" had present "devastating."
long-suffering when you would torten times parents pointed out that
sion "nwfully jolly" or set takes it up and makes use of it things, or even one of them, the cen
obviously prefer resentment: con- maller, the expression
nly iudi- billy, and soon throws it aside for for would have had a say in the considering our persistence good" was not only "awfully
reason why No, it was only a play which was That is the blessed
certain words public-that if only you will come crous, but almost blasphemous. We some new abomination. were told nothing could be "awful"
superseded. It isn't eighteenth century so soon but things that were awe-inspiring liese words sink into oblivion: they not enjoyed! We know that in the sidering, too, our assurances-in charming to hear "bilge" were constantly used-words which back to us, because the magistrate gives you no option, all will be to be used by forgotten. or of the supernatural. These ex-
and exactly were
Kipling spoke of the appalling postulations
it seldom truthfully ex- day and presumed became
"smart" people. the expression
presses what she wishes to say.
But that was an age of exaggera memory of women: has any man and is now, of course, accepted with girl, and
manners, make-up ever believed those assurances? All The oldest kind of words" used in out analyals or condemnation.
If the newer words were not so he newest kind of way" seem less tion; dresses, constantly changing, and others sup- posed to be more up-to-date taking prevalent among men, I suppose all were consistent with the times. will be forgiven, certainly; but very
que,
fantastic, but decidedly un- their places, the expressions coined hearing then come from female lips, it was an arufcial period, pictures- expression "tripe" used to natural, and therefore the "vastly "prodigious" da by the Bright Young Things might people "sit up and take notice."
amuse us. Why should the name of entertaining" become household words, like our Hittle friend "awfully."
That extremely ugly word "rotten" " poor, harmless, extremely whale- not jar, but seem in keeping with the was held in horror some years ago. some tood be used as a term of abuse cops and powder, To speak of a "rotten" play or a for a boring novel or play? Sull, "ration' time was considered the years ago it would have been styled No Sense Of Beauty
misleading than "tripe." neme of vulgarity, and an uppalling "awful," which is, if anything, mare
no
aetereat coming trom the mouth of a lovely were merely the expressions of the
word for a girl to make use of,
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"putrid," which is na more ugly, no
more sensoless "rotten."
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vulgar,
Only A Fashion
The
City
and
manner,
we pre
rarely forgotten,
AM, of course, not .many cases of heart- breaking und altogether admir- these, I suspect, are the ones able forbearance by wives; but
As our unequal law stands, there that do not get into court. 1a such obvious advantage to the woman in forcing the man to go on earning a living for both, when nil he yearns for is to get away.
I like to see sympathy fairly dis- tributed, and it is time some of it went where no magistrate ever
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But the present generation prides
I do not smoke, nor do I drink. I being natural, without
12: brusque affectations.
know many nonagenarians do both. few years ago we said the name of A “Lousy Gathering sett
They might have lived even longer eat very be, but than have heard the expression "-y cart in speech, therefore colloquial serin out of tune with
it they hadn't! I tripe"; surely that is the last expres- affectations
word the times, and that is inertistle; per-
these days. What rules do I keep? I niways I like to eat often. No meat comes
way the When the Princess came to my bed Day Of Relaxation
the middle- sinn to apply to tripe? The
side she did more than she thought. lowest for the anachronism. used to make people shiver, being haps that word sums up the restson
with the
It helped my mind and made me have made a point of having one rest my doctor says that associated
It is not a day of We have lost our sense of beauty;
in England. determined to live for the interest day a week. R vulgor "swear -War
the middle-aged men A short time nga I heard an ex- only
of what people,
which slig Wag
afternoon laziness in front of the fire; it has aged men of Canada are not so fit as proud tremely pretty and well-bred girl
serving the work of the Church always been a day of relaxation. It is describe a play as "by puirid." It word." and it required the courage we have no convictions in art; we
simply have relinquished active part The long Canadian winter encourages Now H pleased-call
of painting to learn the gives it, to the men who endure our
Army.
in Church Army work, though I them to all too much in front of the gave me a shudder, but I was told of George Bernard Shaw to introduce are trio
By all the rules of the game any by one of her men friends that it it into polite soclety, "didn't mean anything." It was quite an ordinary thing to hear a school charming girl condemn a thing as genius
A high chair in the only an expression of the day.
naturally asks, why being "by or the word may be have had their day; we want some- Well, one
yourself in tacked to another now and thrilling thing new.
And, that, no doubt, is why we and pursue ii, we may well deserve of those illnesses I have mentioned found it impossible (as I expect will fire, and mental interest dies. That's
too many rules, too many holds its principal intervet bene- comfortable, should you express
see so many anatomical freaks exhl- to remain, in the vernacular of the should have finished me off. But be easily understood) to forget it the rub. I prefer, in order to keep Billingsgate language if it doesn't adjective to make it a little more
we regain our putrid" and "lousy," bringing forth with mean anything? If you analye, the striking and descriptive.
Que feels it misleading to hear a biled year by year in our picture "Bright Young Things," "definitely have been always a litle Impatient altogether on that day. The mind fit, that things should not be too not ignore the rules and so on, but over returns to activity in it with slippers and a big fire. That's fatal. have the nothing better than "tripe" and regulations, too much red tape. 1 do ncially, and when the day of rest is office, not an num-chair with carpet as "lousy." Some galleries. Unless certainly couldn't expression,
of beauty,, and mean what my tale young friend in- party described
taking place in the courage to seck beauty in everything "blige." tended to convey, but it was forcible, years ago we should have pletured sonse
this party ns and that is the fashion nowadays.
it
of the old
our "advanced" masters. They
tenacious endurance.
that
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