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LADY

your

THE CHINA MAIL, TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 14, 1961.

WOMANSENSE

LUCK The First-born

CHINA MAIL

horoscope

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 14

AQUARIUS January 21- February 19): Since it is necessary for you to de. legate an important task to someone else, you must d. An only if you have [02 plete trust in that person PISCES

(February 20 March 20): You will derive great personal saliA- faction from the successful completion of a very urdu #us task.

ARIES (March 21-April 15: An entirely new approach

1.7 д problem which has been bothering you will help you to solve it.

TAURUS April 20-May 20:

As

result of increased knowledge recently gained, you will be able to take n a job of which you incapable not very long ago. GEMINI

May 21-June 21

were

A suggestion which you submitted some time ag and which you had for- gotten about, will adopted and fully eredited to you.

CANCER June 22-July 21

be

A drastic business decision will be the outcome of meeting with a person who

necessary to sever your ties with 1 person who can- sistently seems to stand in

the way of your progress. VIRGO (August 22-Septem-

}

bei 225: You will soon reap the benefit of your shrew đê- ness and hard work, which have helped you to over considerable

VOLTIC

batucles.

sume

IIBRA (September 23-0efor her 22: A change in your surroundings

will be de-

fuitely for the better. and you ought to try and bring

: khan| . SCORPIO

October --

November 21 The impend- ing trial of your abilities; must be approached confidence. A pessimistic attitude

hinder will only

with

you. SAGITTARIUS November 22-December 211: Emotion- al tips with a friend will be positive strengthened by proof of his loynity. CAPRICORN December 22

January 20: An exenting The theatre experience at will acl N stimulus to

your own artistic pursuits.

by LYDIA JAMES

It's inevitable,

but

do parents

pin too many

hopes on a baby

WE

E all pin our per- sonal hopes and

and we could not give him the days have not taken their unreasoning love he needs. chances of getting to know children, and of seeing them develop, before they have ส child of their own,

A father names

his first bern Winston; his secret fear

fears on our babies. We hope they will grow was that he might turn out the into clever, handsome, timid little man he felt himself or brave people; we fear that they may turn out

to be,

A mother called her daughter

will give you valuable ad- YOUR BIRTHDAY: IT stupid, ugly, or coward- Giselle, and sent her to ballet

vire.

LEO (July 22-August 211:

Although you are reluctant

to do so, it may become

week

falls this find a symbol of good fortune in the gift of

birthday

you will

a Vase.

Rupert and the Popweed-12

From time to time Rupert s able to get near the water's edge where he searches carefully among the masses of seaweed that the storm has thrown up, but there seems to be nothing unusual to be found. At length he pauses. **Whew, there August days are

must rest

hot, he murmurs. before start back. If any cool breeze comes along I shall feel i out on that nice line of rocks. Leaving his pail, he clambers care fully to the big fat rock at the end where he lies down. Almost at once he falls asleep.

ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

ly.

Inevitably, first

classes as soon as she could walk By eight, Giselle was a clumsy child who danced It

children verland but her mother could

this reality: the child and only children are ex- had to become a ballerina. posed to the full force of

this,

singlehanded: their parents have all their egga in one basket.

Our hopes for our

children

refler: our own secret ambitions: the fears, the disappointment, that we feel in ourselves.

Dependent

WE may try to look upon nur

Neatness

ANOTHER young mother felt

certain her

two-year-old, John, would never give up wet- ting the bed and eating with his hands. She had a passion for neatness and orderliness, and her hopes of a clean boy seemed dashed.

ner

Five years later, I saw third at the same age pul to bed in nappies. By then, his mother was unconcerned about his wet- puting and messy eating habits,

new baby as separate wi; be- his own potentialities, but cause he was once part of bodies and remains dependent for so long, we cannot help feel- ing him as part of ourselves, even as he grows.

If this bond did not exist, much he would andøy uk us us other people's children do,

CHILDREN'S CORNER

Knarf And Giddap

-They Talk Of Horse-Pulled Carriage Days-

By MAX TRELL

I should "I don't know why know less than anyone else. It's tearned how to

IDDAP, the Milkwagun Horse, true I never

had come around the corner, read, but I've got big ears and pulling the milkwagon behind listen. her.

As usual, Knarf the Shadow

You'd be surprised how much you can learn if you Isten."

Knart asked

Boy with the Turned-About cabs were.

what

hansomn

Name, came down to the street

to have a morning chat with her

Like Taxis

while the Milkman walked to

the different houses along the "They were carriages," said

street delivering bottles of milk. Giddap.

"I guess when People

wanted to go from one place to

€25

Knarf waved good-bye to Gkdap, the Milkwagon Horse.

Its not surprising

**First children bring new problems and re- sponsibilities for new parents. Lydia James, a mother of four children who spent many years working in child guid ance clinics, discusses this phase of married life in the concluding article of a three-part series on THE FIRST BORN

15 of

parents time, in competitica with The younger ones, usually apparent to friends the family, but often overlooked by the parents themselves in the hurly burly of family life. Some And a constructive way to cam- Pel a

attention, but I have seen a competent nine-year-old reduced to baby talk and a seconing in- ably to do anything for him. Hell. He appeared *45 plain stupid-hardly able to do u his

shoe laces.

This boy was lucky. Hig parents reorganised their usual routine to give him the time he ceeded The father stepped in and arranged to share the

to a nine- terests appropriate year-old, so that eventually the boy got back his confidence

Bossy

ANOTHER reaction is for

In-

the

a5

child to becom, bussy and critical towards the younger ones Such a child or to the parents. that may decide to leave home they become mothers

1101 soon as possible: a kind of "do- knowing what to expect and it-yourself." lacking confidence in them- selves and their babies. They

easily too

undermined as a

are

by the slightest criticism outlet from family and friends.

When my Brst screamed in the night I was invariably torn be- tween the wish to pick her up and comfort her, and that this might be "spoiling"

A girl in this mood trained

teacher

an She found

10 her need for

be her real appreciated ability to organise. She could be kind to children outside har

family, but remained intolerant) where her own relatives were

the fear concerned.

I can take two or even more

babies before we learn that most

have patches of wakefulness and

TF furs! endless at the time, and all the need to be reassured. It seems

share more exhausting with a first middle baby because we are still learn-

ing.

Struggle

Problems

children have of problems, 80 ones and so does

Day

into

evening

Page

Sportswear designer Mr Mort believes in the capsule wardrobe. He takes a woman from day into evening with a long-sleeved knit sheath, newly fitted and unbelted. During the day it is covered with leather-sashed overblouse, sleeveless, in ribbed knit, with turtle neck collar. Colour is Oxford grey.

JACOBY on BRIDGE

THE North-South

their do the

youngest, But I think parents would agree that their feelings for their first child, be they of pleasure or disappointment, re- main special throughout their lives, because they were for a spell, however short, the focus of their innermost hopes axel dir fears.

of Tow many

us would

our differently with

first once we have had some more-

She had realised that children but we can't have it over again! become civilised In their own time, and she feels now, many years later, that the scenes the had with John had made him shut-in and obstinate

Like John's mother, giris and young women

I am horrified when I notice how little I expect of my cur- rent six-year-old, compared the independence I expected of my oldest when she was six.

The oldest child's struggle to

his these make a successful bid for

many

JEAN SOWARD

bidding is worthy

After of study. North's bide of two clubs and

South three spades

visuallsed slam possibilities. He only had 14 points, but he held three aces and three clubs.

The four heart bid was enough six for North. He jumped to diamonds.

NORTH 40172

10 KJO AKQTO

EAST

K95

K98753

WEST

▲ 10 8 63 Q32

⚫ 10.8

• 542

A

diamond to

South won the opening heart lead and led

2

The next play was the ace of clubs and when

we dummy's king. confused happened Eust's jack dropped South de-

Perhaps that is why tend to have memory of what

а

alter our second, third or cided to play absolutely safe. fourth child was born, and a He drew trumps, discarded two

hearts on the long clubs vivid recollection of our feel- ings and the happenings in the first days and weeks after the birth of our first baby.

NOW HERE'S A DISH THAT'S

WH

FIT FOR A BARONESS

EXTRAVAGANT, PERHAPS

BUT SUPERB

the

one-third brandy. Put on Ild, make a paste of four and water, and cover the lid, sealing it on to the casserole; then you cook it in a slow oven, No. 2, for 5-6 hours.

"The secret is in scaling the lid. If any

smells escape dur- im- ing the cooking, seal off He led me over to a window mediately with more paste.

HEN a man cooks it is never any. thing simple. Neither, 1 have often found, is he...... very keen on clearing up the mess he leaves in the kitchen when, some hours after the creative seat, sat down beside me, and

"You will urge has struck, he re- cald: "Well

never," he said, "You know," said Giddap to another and didn't care to walk,

"have tasted anything like it," Knarf, “I don't suppose there they would call for a hansom

appears triumphantly "You need: One good rump are many People who would be- cab and have themselves taken in the time when there were

person; and equal I made this last week. And I the smell to wherever they wanted to go. Knights, they used to fight in bearing the fruits of his steak per

Marge piles of finely chopped onion, promise you that. battles And here's something labours.

carrot, parsley; and salt and which follows the breaking of I just remembered hearing

for the paste crust and the lifting somebody saying. He was a However, this is just pepper and some garlic

aprinkling. Then Madeira of the casserole lid is specially "And carriages were like school Teacher. I heard him niggling. The "fruits are wine, and brandy. And a cover gratifying and compensates at

talking by an open window one

generally worth the couple ed casserole. "I'm sure of it," said Giddap. day last summer. "I'm mighty glad you do," "My Grandfather told me that said Gidday. "It's getting so some of the carriages had two nowadays that a Horse like me wheels and some of them had "He said that long, long ago, can't find any other Horse to four wheels. And sometimes the Horses pulled chariots. And Because, when a talk to. What I mean is that carriages were pulled by one then he told a story that I don't we Horses are getting fewer Horse and sometimes they were belleve.. and fewer."

pulled by a team of Horses.

lieve that you could talk to a Horse,"

Knart smalled.

Likes to talk

"I like talking to you,"

he

sald.

"Hansom cabs were taxicabs."

Automobiles?" asked Knatt.

like

Kyárt, Bald~he didn't think "And then-there were the that many Horses lived in the buses and the trolley cars. elty

Grandfather said that when he "They don't live here any was a young Colt-"!-- more," agreed Giddap. "But my grandfather used to tell me

Doesn't believe it

of hours scrubbing, soaking washing, and general tidy. ing up one is faced with

man

Sealed

"After that, the operation is bothers to cook, he almost simplicity itself. always cooks, something "He said there was a wonder-quite splendid... ful Horse," Giddap went_an

narced Pegasus. He had wings like an Eagle."

Simple

least in part for the extrava- gant use of expensive

alcohol needed to make the dish as the baroness liked it.

And although I cannot vouch for the result one substituted red wine strengthened with You put the first piece of perhaps a tablespoonful of steak on the bottom of the brandy, this is undoubtedly casserole, follow it with a layer what I shall do the next time of the chopped-seasoned vege dook it. After all the baroness tables and a sprinkle of garlic, will never know. then another layer of steak, and Servo, the Burgundian Beef of vegetables, with plain bolled potatoes, and So when a well-known critic and so on until the casserole have several yards of "crusty

Mr Kho is almost filled. That's what, the Teacher'll call him

French bread available to said," declared Giddap. "But I also a specially talented amateur used to pull-all-the-wagone.

Gon't really believe.except cool came over at a party theThen you fill the remaining able your guests to mop up the There were almost as many "A Colt is a young Horse," that I'd like to. Just think how othe day, shafaid: "My doar race in the casserole with two- pauco Horses in the city as there were enla Giddap. "So when Grand wonderful it would be if I could I've got a straply jebulous recipe thirds of

father was Colt, he saw trol-o flying through the street for you "I tocked an attentlye But weren't there always ley cars on tracks being pulled with my milkwagon!! nutomobiles?"

that not so many yeara ugo - "A

before the automobile - Horses Knart.

People.

sked Knors..

Wagons and carriages

Helped the farmer

young

"A Hores that could f3? gasped. Knart.

what?" asked

all through the elty by Horses, They were called Horse-cars. At that moment the Milkman Boeuf Bourguignon

returnod, chribed back into the Baronne de Genedu

at never sDW

a Horse-cur," millewagon and cried "Chidao!" ed, kaising his eyes to I don't think so i said Cila- said Kharf. don. There were just wayang Than

Kvart asked what And Knart at at the sidewalkam ontbread in

cook's ecstasy. and carriages and bansom cabs." floress did even long before and watched the old Milkw BKL

they pulled carriages and Horse Horse go plodding down the bendiyo to make bag You certainly know a lot for curs and hangom cabi

street, clop-clón-clop Horie, 1 said, Kharf, Giddau, pawed the ground: They used to help the 1, do really wish yshe, with her hi61.

Tarnier plough the ground. And wing!"

Beof the Boroner de Cienegal's

net will probably be my tong

another layer

Madeira wing and.

London Express Service.

For a hurry up dinner

Hemp booked whole wille önibüs

9549

SOUTH (D) 4A4

A64

AQ973

♣ 10 8 2

South 14

Both vulnerable

and

West North East

Pas

24 PASS

2 N.T.

PASE

Pass

Pass

♥+CARD Senseķ♦

Q-The bidding has been:" North East South West

PURA .2 N.T.

Pass Pass 3N.T. Pass

24

3+

Paas

You, South, hold:

?

·

12 K965 *Q43 #3954 What do you do? A-Bid five dixamonds. You prefer diamonds to spades.

TODAY'S QUESTION Instead of rebidding to three diamonds over your two no- trump your partner has – bid- three hearts. What do you do in this case?

·Answer Tomorrow

-Pass Pass"

Pass

Opening lead-❤Q

eventually made seven by means

of the spade finesse.

and

At the other table the bidding started out in the same manner, but when North bid three spades, South

overlooked

the tremen stam

possibilities merely rebid to three no-trump. After this three, no-trump bid North had no means of tell- ing that the two hands meshed perfectly, North passed. South did manage to gather in all 13 tricks but that was small con- solation,

Tiara

uxuries)