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If we were half as smart in answering, Communist propaganda and slating in debail the Superiority of Democracy as we are in building, &mies, we would not be losing, the propaganda fight all over Europe ---- HÓMO SAPIENS, MR

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World Caparisht dy strangement with Daily Barat

THE CHINA - MAIL, SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 8, 1951.

Madame Ike moves in

M

*

PARIS.

She in ad-

WOMAN

of the WEEK

ADAME IKE as they dieted to call her, hero, has quiet, clothes moved into the (often black) white painted, 14 room and small, house which the French close fitting Government have just re hats. After novated for her at the cost 35 years of. of around £25,000, Sho marriage (tho and General Elsenhower, anniver-by Evelyn Supreme Allied Commandor adry was last ARONS

summer holidny.

from

her husband had lived since their arrival in France Inst February. But she picked Villa St Pierre, inassuming Inst-contury house in the 'Scino valley village of Marnes-In-Coquette,

There her neighbours In-

dude her close friend Mra Grace Gruenther, wife of Eenhower's Chief of Staff and other high-up Ameri- can officers and their wives,

within

#

few

in Europe, suttled in on month) she their return

their must have

hoped to settle down quietly At 54, Mamie Elsenhower to enjoy the company of her They are is slim, well groomed, her husband, their, son and minutes' drive of the vast brown, naturally wavy hair daughter-in-law, and two spread of pre-fabs which

are Eisenhower's new HQ. is dressed in the character- grandchildren. istic fringe she has worn for years. Her most remark able feature is the colour of ker eyes, a deep violet blue. Says one French new- paper: "She dresses simply but in excellent taste." Τα which they add gallantly: "To Ike, Mamie is always 20 years old."

A NEW CHINA MAIL SATURDAY

SERIES

MAKING A SUCCESS

OF YOUR MARRIAGE

O

By Edward Kaufmann

The das will come when o husband and wife will consul; and psycholcuis:

psychiatrist

noted divorce lawyer

VER and over again, women have asked me "What makes a good marriage?" "What must I do to keep my husband's love?" Only very rarely have men asked me such things.

I have decided, therefore, to answer

with regard to their marriage as celed. the woman who

Loday They consult their family sincerely asks these ques- dzelor with regard to physle tions. I am doing so be discbilities. They will bare theft souls to the forint: with as little (a) It is the woman,

incught as they bare their bodies rather

o the latter. than the mai, who asks for ad- vico.

cause:

(b) She needs protection

more than he does,

(c) The

incdern woman sp-

•

nec divorced

riage is the deep

community

of the husband's and wife's life interests. Where such а community has never existed morrlage

never been

realised; where it declines the marriage Is unsound; and where it has been destroyed the marriage is ended.

divorce court. more about the lawyer and the man becomes a stranger to her. She cher leaves him eventually cr throws herscif into the arms et another, who satisfer her de

re

has to be comforted and pic

If a woman marries with the expeotation of having children. and the with remains untuiflied, she likewire fcels unfulfilled. She It is the creation, preserva- w seek divorec and

tion and extension of the four another husband who will give her

common in- the great fields of

terest in marriage that are of child she

decisive women,

Importance. These But many

are: the intellectual, the sexual, When a woman finds that her appointed by the experience husband rudely dismisses her of a lust marriage, are pleald the economie and the family,

Study ol the 'causes at proaches marriage as ignornit friendly questions, colds her, remarry, c. become. perisane!-

divorce the door

Ecod is affices with an Infertory over is marriage. endangered for no

shows that almost of its responsibilities mi de bangs

marry again, only mands at any woman of ather reason, makes a scene sash me ecmplex, c decades, and the fact that many Interest in her concerns, or whim the divorced wife is far unhap

he gives her money.

by a weakness in only one, of shows no after a lipse of many yeałe.

In

of common a great many such cases these four, folds girls have had "experience" be-

Interest, but that Д marriage fore

marriage has not in any kissing her best friend after

she has suddenly came upon him.

pler and lonelier than the wemph way altered the situation with cocktail party she will most prob- who has never married at all.

ably not know what the score The nature of marriage has

It is the total intensity of s. She will be dumb. And of changed. Marital life today is course her friends will

advise no longer the marital life of, the partners' common interests Say, 1650. The relative post- in the four fields that

deter- a marriage is such tion of men and women

has mines walks of life. substantially altered in all healthy or diseased. one thing,

a marriage is con- on the wedding night. .two sexes have become in- summate a creasingly more independent of Marriage, however, only begins

on the wedding

it night, and point-of-view-marriage is no does not grow of itself. Rather, longer an absolute necessity one must continually, provide it for either the

with the substance of life; one must work at It, shape It day olter day, if one wate create the work of art

that marriage is, or can be.

A

marriage good

19 not place where .the brend was "solid comfort." It is not an

the easy chair in which one

respect to marital wisdom.

(d) The schools of today Jo rot teach the subjects of marital relations uny more successfully her. than they have

ever becn taught.

worry

about

"Don't trifles, my dear," Jane will say The fact that girls today learn "That's common to every max- something of the care of babies ringe." and good housekeeping has not "Ignere li, darling." Laura will remedied muliers by ene lota. say. "Simply pretend not to have Courses in marital education, and seen or heard." its related categories, have not

Jane and Laura prave Thus begun to take their place beside they are net wise or understand- physics, mathematics, languages, in friends.

This is not a scientific study of If she is

a young, newly wed- marriage. Instead, it draws from ded with it is not in the least my three decades of experience surprising that she is helpless.

Кая

I distinguished between cases

In which the divorce was re-

the.

For

cach other. From an economic

woman.

for

The home

Man

от

was

the

the once

becomes "diseased" because of a deficiency or weakness ip two or more of them.

whether

can

overy-

of

under-

as a lawyer, and the material After all, her school curriculum baked, the food cooled,

bren gatherco

from hundreds included history and English, of divorce records.

French and social selence: but e

Ihnen woven, the clothes wash lean back and expect From time to time I have taken any real training fer marriage. Today even the men. can thing to run by itself. "case histories" from my files, was conspicuous by its absence.

necessitles secure these

out-

The characteristic style And women, read them, compared them and Ask, say, a hundred girls side the home.

any marriage is, in its main found that certain identical facts picked at random. "What do you too, are no longer slavishly de-

features, established during the were common throughout, prer expect

from marriage?" anti pendent upon their husbands drst nine months Blier the sent in almost every statement;

results. No therefore, the inter-dependence months, husband and wife ex- their living. Economically, wedding. In these first pine that the starting points of marital sout the

be more discouraging of man and wife are conflicts, and subsequent dev more indicative of ignorance and

greatly perience for the Grst time al- lopments, recurred again and misunderstanding. It is clear tha: reduced. again, and actually formed pat most women arc thinking

Furthermore, the unmarried most everything that marriage ct

has to offer, with one imper- lerns.

what

**woman is no longer a social tant exception-parenthood. they can expect from a future husband rather than of "old maid" who has missed the pariah, the anuslag or pliable Whit

conrikutes Ecod marriage boat and lost out in life. To- The answers show that mes day a woman is given the If a woman fails to women expect to receive more benefit of the doubt if she re- stund that the character of her quested by the wife, by the hus- from the partnership, from the mains single. Shỏ may

have marrloge depends essentially band; by both. 1 tock into ac- husban:l himself, than they cher own good reasons

upon those first nine, months, count the age of the complainant, pect to give. prospective

Modern marriage

her be it can be expected that the duration of the marriage, tually means. Disappointment is, changed conditions, and

seldom knows what marriage adjusted the

must to the generally marriage will be short-lived. presence or abs tot ties and therefore, bound 4s follow, which be essentially enriched, it is

Nine months. is 270 days. examined the family

must. When two persons. live .10% hackground of both parties, the in turn leads to the psychological to survive at all. Only when geher for 270 nights and days professional, finanelal, and social disturbances and illnesses that, the community of interests of their behaviour towards they form certain habits, status, the alleged grounds fe in turn, lead

to the

'divorce husband and wite is made divorce, I studied the historics courts.

suffelently attractive con mar

another falls into certain pat-

They

270 rlage in the 20th century res

meet to give and receive main the "pillar of society"

270

nights: they meet would be a splendid which, the life of the nation In their home, and outside; and of cases deak with in can preventative in thousands of con

can soundly be laid.

alone, and in company. In these sultation entres. The majority cases where ignorance rather

hundreds of meetings the general of all cases were drawn from ur- than intention has brough; an

character of their mutual be ban rather then rural areas.

haviour is established.

How often and often I hove whether a mar- been asked riage which has been neglest- ed and malformed for years is doomed to collapse..

of scend marriages,

Parallel

וי

were ce training in what to

investigations

marriages,

made of successful

be

what

end to love and respect.

I have come to the conclusion' that marital trouble can diagnosed, as a disease ding- That training should convey to nosedim

by certain

recurrent her the ralisation that under- In other words, standing her husband, respecting

follows

his feelings but without losing specific, well-defined course. It her identity and individuažiť

first are fundamental and base for a

marts

usually originates the

in

2

y-

on

Only a clear, zád frank cognition of the changes that are occurring, and have or curred, can lead to a rational treatment of the chaps in mar rlage that we find ht every turn.

What are the actual

bring women to

en

und

Оло

The answer of the marriage consultant is exactly that of causes the heart--or lung-specialist in:

the his feld.

Theoretically, no disease is

that days of the union, even in the healthy life in the marital "com- divorce court? Does Ann's hus- premarital period. It varies some mume." and that she is entitled band really want to leave her incurable. Everything depends what in type; but the number of to demand them of her husband just because she is unattrae- on the type of the disease, the

surprisingly small,And also, types.

tive? Then why is Jeannette, extant of fis progress, the total once the root and prognosla of She must be taught that mag- an attractive blonde, in tha

of the marriage, the "sickness" have been estab tal Ike, as life itself, has to be samo

Does constitution lished the Icglool

predicament?

and the will of the marital next. step la to

la to built on really and not on Mary's husband really want to patient to Tollow the consul seek the means of prevention, does not mean the limiting of well past 307. Then why is the

dreams and illusions; that.

this treatment and cure.

desert her just because she is tant's advice in order to cur

or at least In the realms of marital patho- beauty and fantasy; that marri al-year-old Judith facing the ringet improve, ble mar logy carly diagnosis is too often age ces not mean love alone, samo bitter circumstances?

Ignorance but also friendship; and that time, postponed. Through

But wa One can only laugh and neglect

with there we cannot deny that will always be incurably. allowed to very much time, and the invest scorn, or weap with pily, at a casek, and divorce cannot al- the evil is progress. urarith the marriage ment of ab human, faculties, law that defines adultery as ways be avoided. totally alimentates and divorce working constantly and ireless the mortal sin that terminates In a not inconsiderablo num

to be the only way out. ly, are necessary in the building marriage, while mental crucity, ber of mises divorce may be Doctor of Psychology is of a suroestful marries relation although It terminates the_tho bnly means of transforming, 4itle, that is mill an obere and here is an ingato onging for board, leaves the marriage it healthy human beings

11. 'oommunity. of the bed and sick, marriage partners: inta to most People. Marital .con- sulation, mariful treatment, love and sarmak by avery was proffs Intaat marital curp, ura Innuffelently, mahi If a husband hasloote this. Marriage

merely

known and insuficiently used, all-embracing darply moled need,coliabitation Marriage, is not

The mahde ate large, knows far the whe Iveta” frustrated The merely a, common table, marrim

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