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THE CHINA MAIL, NOVEMBER 1, 1988.

Kinder Not

To Tell? What The Stars

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run it is really lack of morat courage that deludes you into believing that, in silence, lies kindness.

"Of course, she knows nothing about it-it's much kinder not to tell her??. -

How often have you said that? Said it, of course, with the very best of intentions; hoping, pro- bably, to spare someone near and dear to you the pain of hear, ing bad news.

But have you ever paused to consider whether, in taking up this attitude, you weren't simply avoiding an unpleasant duty, and so exposing a beloved one to the worse pain of hearing the bad news from a stranger. For someone else may so easily "let the cat out of the bag," giving the recipient of the story or whatever it may be, a shock, and leaving them with a quite-under standable grievance against you for not having forewarned them

MUCH KINDER

You wouldn't of course, dream of repeating any ill-natured gossip you might chance to hear about one of your friends. But do you ever stop to think that · if the gossip is really damaging it might be your duty to tell your friend about it? For, if all her friends adopt the "don't tell her" attitude, the story · may spread far and wide before she hears the slightest whisper of it. And, even though the office of tale-bearer provés a thank- less one, any worth-while friend will, on reflection, realise that you have shown considerable moral courage in coming to her. But surely it isn't "kinder not to tell" an invalid or the victim of an accident that she is incur- able? Awful as it is to have to reveal to one you love that she will be permanently lamed or bed-ridden, it is much kinder in the long run than allowing her to drag on through long weeks and months of hope de- ferred, growing gradually more .weary and discouraged, until she finally discovers the truth- as she inevitably will-when she may be too embittered to "face" up to it.

TELL THE TRUTH

So do tell her the truth--as soon as the doctor will let you— and then help her to re-organise her life to meet the new circum- stances.

And what of the dying, should they know the truth? Well, that is a very difficult question→→ per~- haps too difficult for anyone but a doctor to answer. But my own feeling is that anyone facing the greatest adventure of all has a right to know.

Most common of all these "kinder not to tell" situations is the case of the husband who's having a flirtation with another woman,

Friends

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magazine arti- warn us against ré- vealing the true facts to the wife. Yet, consider. How will she feel when, finally, the REWE reaches her as it must- through malicious gossip?

Don't you think it would be much wiser and better to wBEN her now, in a straightforward, friendly way?Armed with a ̈ knowledge of the situation she'll be able to tackle it in her own way to face the world.

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By MARY BLAKE

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Witty Kitty

To-day, with the exception of ¡les, as well as sweethearts, will affairs of a sentimental nature, will find that teasing is an irritant, con- probably be uneventful, and peace- ducive to making its' victim decided- ful. This ought to be an auspiciously disagreeable, to-day, so it will day for all forms of social activi-be good judgment to refrain from ties, particularly for visiting friends | indulging in it. and relatives. The subject of any If a woman and November 1 is conversation should be selected with your birthday, you are probably to be the cause of much of care,

for depressing topics are liable very intellectual, very daring, witty mental distress experienced to-day. are likely to be

the and ambitious. Your undertakings.

very successful, Influences are apt to

the especially those of a commercial or mental faculties unusually alert, so artistic nature. The chances are it. may be an exceptionally good you have very few intimate friends day for writers, or any one who but a very large number of decides to make the use of the pen. quaintances, many of whom would Jealousy and suspicion, unfortun-like to know you better. You are lately, are likely to be easily arous-apt to get along much better with led to-day, so anyone who might suf-men than with members of

fer from either, must be very dis-own

your might make you nationally known. crete in both their words and ac-educational, artistic, literary or ex-find far more happiness than if you sex. Through work of an As, a married woman, you ought to tions. Married and engaged coup-lecutive nature your

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