1938-03-29 — Page 3

THE CHIA MATE,

CHARM ROBBERS

A Checkup Of Habits That Prove Handicaps In Social Life

How about taking time off to-day, no more becoming asset to man or for a little checkap on a few of the woman than good nature. Apropo

& moman stirac-a certain famous American WO tive and the things that rob her of reports chammy

things that

nother's advice in girlhood: Be pretty if you can, We all, more or less, develop set be witty if you must, but be agre little habits, so much a part of usable if it kills you.” that we are blissfully unconscious

of their destructiveness.

Criticism Is Bad Habit

The charm of control under em

In an article on employment op-barrassing, difficult or awkward portunities we noticed the great situations, stamps its exponent as number of traits in people that one of extreme grace. The least prejudice employers against appli-important person may become no- canta. Naturally our interest was ticeably important because of this captured mainly by those traits expression of power. that express age and lack of charm, and we've selected one of habit of criticizing every friend Something to check up on is the these as the beginning of our charm discussion to-day. It's the habit of holding the floor too long a time when telling a stangr

Do you take the floor and hold forth at great length, dragging in when we fail in our contacts every little detail of a story, going with others we may be fairly sure off on irrelevant tangents? Or do that it is some character weakness. you make your story brief and of our own that stops us. When pungent, eager not to hold your we fail to overlook the audience to the point of boredom? objections in others, or the be character If the latter, you are younger and haviorisms, we put up a spite wall more interesting and more wel- to keep out their nicer sides and

come.

Interrupting Common Habit Another item connected with conversation is interrupting, a common habit and one also played up as an employer prejudice. It's only another way of wanting to take over the floor for self-exploita- tion, which easily results in bore-

dom for the audience, if not in

frank irritation.

and acquaintance for some minor, or even major, fault or faults. A point to consider is embodied in can't be out of step. the bromide that all the others

succeed in isolating ourselves, which is no healthful or whole- some state for any ore,

Setting out with prejudice against people is another theme for thought. Many of us do. We approach a social affair with the intention not to like some one off whom we may know little.

We women too often are guilty Where's The

of this offense against good taste and charm. We are so full of the numbers of things that seem to us should be as important to the other person as they are to us that we

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rattle on, holding to the I theme A place for everything and every to the point of audience impatience thing in its place, has always seemed if not exhaustion. "Wearing" is like a rather smug saying to us, what we are called behind our bringing up, as it does, a picture of backs, and wearing we are if we some pinky prim following people can't let the other person have his around picking up after them and or her say, too.

keeping things altogether too tidy Another conversational irritant for comfort. However, as and charm destroyer is chatter lady knows, clutter in itself

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How to treat your Parents

HOW TO TREAT MOTHER

Don't boast about being so mo dem. That makes her think you're ashamed of her rather fashioned ideas

And it also

sion that she has lost whom she taught the rules of

Don't take sides with mothe against her, when there is a rift the family lute.

That sort of thing only m worse for her when your

with nothing said. It's better to a lot of extra and do, especially gets her alone, for he is bound to

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things she leads you even rarefully than you would look

appear the wise individual who where children present in the say, "I won't have you putting my talks little. Somehow this chatter-home circle, a mother may find a daughter against me!" whether h ing type can

be dismissed or few hints helpful for keeping the thinks she is or not! broken in on without hurt feelings, house in order and her temper in

You don't know everything.. but a modern curse found at hand.

cause your mother and father saw dimers, cocktail parties, teas, ok What do you do with your but a lot of one another ages other social gatherings is the tons, for example Do you just you were even thought of. woman or girl who must be dump them in a basket or box and "clever" all the time, just too full then hunt frantically for just the of clever quips and sallies, quota- right size for baby's underwear and tions and comments to be easy on waste many valuable minutes in the the listener.

search? A young mother we know Conversational ease, poise and bought herself one of those parti grace are charms to be studied, tioned stocking boxes, and separt not so much to know what to say her buttons into various size of but to know what does annoy.

Now it only takes minute to run to the button box We can't leave the talk theme select a fastener of just the right without stressing the ugliness of being intentionally rude. In cer-

gize tain so-called “modern” cliques one

Do toys underfoot maka finda rudeness, cultivated to a con- hazardous?

temper short and your home test point, the participants seem-

(You know, of ingly trying to see which can say

that of the thousands of the rudest thing

each year, more are caused by

Cultivated Rudeness -

fications.

We have been present at such conditions than by automobile!) contests when we wondered if the toy box

testants ever would speak great am rother again, so personally bit-Pecially

the they may

house

unph opinian, to a sufferi

Certainly

hen they

chest in the corne

Mothers don't mind lending, they expect care to be taken with borrowed garments" and things.

If mother offers to lend you something that

HOW TO TREAT FATHER

Don't be all superior

to give you

well

his advice,

be casual with him. Bear mind that he's the chap who's

everything

E-your men friends his cigars If he's any- host he'll be adequately

such things.

Don't echo your mother's words when she "goes for him because he won't come in from me garden. on Sundays.

He'll take it from your but not from

Don't

ally

too much, no much teasing,

his garden occasion-

ONE DAY NEARER

Every dark and wintry day one day hear Spring

hioned, accept it, even if you don't use it!

Don't let suspect that any-day thing of hers is not good enough for you

Keep you cow

high

Home

Bring her some: ally, for they

much as they bind of love

When

from your rosy bu

bring

everyone feel er

trine sion-run- other love days other don't

home

One

that happy dawn Gang, and daffodils

YOUTS of 11

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