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If you're a wife. If you're a husband

CHINA

NOT

THIS IS MENTAL MURDER!

you want a really amusing He disciplines his hildren ignorant in this

I hobby, my collecting some of harshly because in his beart of ther wouldn't dare a thoug

the reasons given by people who hearts he envies the affection if they knew it to complain of "mental cruelty.

they receive. One husband says that his wife They usually grow to hate passes into spiritualistic trances him and to feel hitter because they in which she cuddles the spirit of have been deprived her first husband.

Then there is the

are prudish, and seem to be proud of it, too.

I would ask wives, who consider chion. their husbands cruel or house ate, to ask themselves- barbed Do I give my husband come & deal

Do I give him the complete love has that every man needs?

BY HENRY HARRIS

onsequently never learnt to

A wife, complains that her hus- obsessed wife who h band takes out mis false teeth in insult should ber-hust public, and gives them to her to minute late to a meal. Or spill ash mind.

on the carpet. Or mildly protest at being asked to give up his easy And would ask husbands the Both these hus chair because she must there and same questions. then dust it

The remedy

Frivolous as these complaints seem, they are symptoms of some thing far deeper.

Sadism is the name given by psy- chologists to the desire to inflict pain on the person one loves- habes.

Nearly as many wives as hus bands are sadists.

Here are the commoner types of sadists. You're sure to recognis some of them

THE JEALOUS SADIST tortures his wife with endless questionings and taunts.

Suspects the friends she's had since childhood. Suspects his own friends. Suspects even the errand boy who comes to the door..

Even takes to opening her let ters and spring on her.

He is jealous even of his own children, and constantly accuses her of coddling them and neglect ing him

The jealous

worse...

wife can be even

THE SADIST WHO IS A DIS CIPLINARIAN, like the first type,. is full of jealousy and hate.

She uses punctuality and tid and the domestic virtues cuse to tyrannise. and

THREE OTHER SADE The nagger who is

tionally

"be incredibly where love nde

Give more take it, but more affection. Buy or, at

make him special

The

ex love. Show

her fowers, ARE- dažuty dishes occasionally

Don't be

two

physical side.

triage.

sadist of a subtler kind. Just as ignorance, often a he as a she

Then the sadist who ridicules and Get competent advice. Most doc

in public. The husband tors nowadays are able and who criticises his wife's bridge

you the advice which the vicious circle playing, her cooking or the way she may break do brings up the children. And then, of your lives. the sadist who achieves his purThe second cause is more seriou

Emotional Infantis pose by a cultivated indifference

The "life-and-soul-of-the-party husband, who woos any audience he can get, but relapses into mute mess and indifference at home.

What is it converts otherwise de cent folk into monsters of cruelty at home?

Two things. Ignorance of the physical technique of marriage and

Emotional Infantilism (failure to grow up in one's emotions).

The first is less serious. Here is the picture.

But he works of his hate b Husband and wife have, from the making demands that are unrea, beginning of their married life, sonable, inconsiderate and irksome. failed to adjust themselves sexual-

His jealousy he conceals by pre- ly to each other.

tending to put people in their - Such failures are far too common place."

nowadays. Too many husbands are

THE

WORLD GOES BY

By "ULYSSES"

S far as I am concerned, the do) and glared at her as if she had racing season is over. I have been deliberately interfering with hocked my watch (the one I fished the animal in some new and subtle from the Pond at the Garden Fete) way. The hat was ruined and the and my cuff-links (gilt, actually, Office Blonde failed to be photo but a good imitation of the rea graphed as a result. thing), and I shall have to go with out tiffin in future.

I should have mentioned that the wench imagines herself to have a Apart from the financial losses resemblance to Greta Garbo, and suffered by my optimistic habit of decks herself out accordingly, even following every tip given me, gen-to the eyelashes. The providenc erally by my somewhat shady col-that watches over women and other leagues, there was the trying time half-wits alone knows how she I had with the Office Blonde. I hate keeps them on. They even weather- being seen with her, but you know ed the typhoon. how it is, and I had to take.

Happy Valley

tol There was a succession of further incidents, most of them too embar- She would insist on seeing the rassing to set up in print, so I will horses in their stalls. Of course - just mention, en passant as it were, gust of wind blew her hat off and the dame's dispute with the judges deposited it at the feet of some over the result of a race. She seem- wretched animal, who deliberately ed quite hurt, poor dear, when they lifted one of his front legs and refused to place her fancy first be- stamped on it, the wine leering cause it had such an appealing horribly. Personally, I admired the in its eyes and the jockey was

ting too sweet could

plack I for

I should mention her

to back a certain

ing

they

Whah

Frankly, they tough for the ne

Let's picture this in the case of courts. They should be the husband.

the medical can hope to case

He may have been an only son at any rate spoilt by "smother love." Trained to expect excessive affection and attention but not to give it

Especially as the largely in the subcon

He may care certain cases, But for the most part,

Or he may be the son of over break is the best solution. shown affection and he himself would all-too-gladly end severe parents. They have never are the people, whose

SMARTLY

DRESSED

MEN

KNOW THE VALUE

OF HAVING MORE

THAN ONE HAT

MOST

$850

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