1937-09-09 — Page 8

THE CHINA MAIL

WOMAN! TELL YOUR MAN THIS!

OVERHEARD

Englishwoman say day that the Britisher is worst lover Bar one tough American he male

orldly-wise The the other love in s

e world's tic way. His other the not-quite-ado

If you found an exception so she said he was usually Scottish, some times Irish or. Welsh.

Well, I cannot tell. No English man has ever made love to me. I can only go by what I hear.

Ý

eals

But to learn to be a good lover.

a Why

forgive their charn

think that way.

and Lati

weaknesses!

Love to him something that thunder and. just happens lightning, and there's nothing you there is nothing

art What it really means is, can or need do about it.

ing to express, more fully and ade. quately, the maleness that is in him.

It is time you reminded him that do hot

feminate

the

He forgets that love is something that man has acquired through the centuries. - Primitive man knew no thing of love as we conceive it.

There is a sex instinct but no reliable) love instinct. It has to be learnt.

It is an emotional and, spiritual Which gives one to wonder... Can relationship that is built and ground- a husband who is a poor lover helped on a physical relationship-the

sex instinct to make a happy marriage?

Abroad they say usually that the Englishman is a good husband (kind, considerate and but a poor lover.

I've seen unions of that sort that Sex is the foundation, and love seemed calm and contented on the the walls and roof that make the Only the maturest men surface. But they were not joyous habitation. marriages-just amicable arrange and women ever make a temple of ments.

Nothing effeminate in that, sure- ly? It is part of his social duties.

Another tendency of his is to split love up artificially into two com- ponents.

The

beautiful wo- alas, they

at them."

this I think

But

with a germ of truths

Certainly I've noticed that a good many Englishwomen seem to have to take the initiative because the men are too timid or lacking in skill.

What such a husband or a lover but a tame cat. Which is perfectly all right for those who want a tame cat The average woman doesn't.

women often get is not.

One part is vaguely and foolishly

The Englishwom seems, as and blindly romantic. Not true ro-

rule, more grown-up emotionally- mance just fake.

The other part is nasty, unplea-than her man. She responds readily sant, though desirable, and no sub- to a mature lover. ject for conversation between lover

The Englishman is less ready

Yet all `it" and beloved, husband and wife at learn from a woman. To the average Englishman

need every scrap of education that seems almost indecent to consider any rate, in daylight.

Either he is blitheringly, blindly, women can give them love as an art

I think it is true that the English- Football Yes! You've got to fake-romantic or he is confusedly So far as my experience goes, learn that Lawn tennis, fox-trot- "wicked." It's got to be moonlight man has still a lot to learn as a lover. there is much truth in the accusa- ting, fox-hunting. By all means. ecstasy or sinful joy. Rarely, both You've got to sweat blood to be re

that Honestly, without a love continues to grow, I do not see how a marriage can have any real joy. or meaning in it-or any durability

tion.

THE

WORLD GOES BY By" ULYSSES"

men

Though the British character is

By Henry Harris

This-adolescent attitude to love

personality, he must pay more respect to the art after all, the foundation of all human relationships.

at the same time..

one of the finest in the world, it is Woman may be more prudish, but certainly not beyond improvement. she can usually see that these are If the Britisher wants personal as the not two different things. Splitting happiness at home, as well one's emotional life in this way respect of nations; if he wants a ided Twould not approach adequacy after going amongst common men.makes a man a poor lover. (She fuller, more balanced, less

as a statement of fact to say It would seem inevitable that some should be able to help him here.) that the Little Egotist is self-satis-group should use him as a foot fied. The untarnished lustre of ball, to mark its genuine horror of How to his own excellence is so serenely such super-complacence.

Tell your man that there is his life's faith that it is in the high-refrain from gross violence when

effeminate in learning to est degree probable that the merest he observes (to a congregation of makes some men charming But it nothing

to is the sort of charm that madden- love... On the contrary, what it rumour that he is not just about normal adults) that it seems perfect would reach him with a him that the Spanish problem is a inglly infuriates women who happen means is learning to express his

masculinity to its fullest. sense of shock. It would be news very intricate one, with more than to be emotionally grown-up.

It is skin deep like the beauty of And if he thinks he has nothing to him. Consequently, it is quite one side to it. That time his wife's

to learn, if he thinks he came into easy to savour the basis of the presence saved him, though she some women.

It is apt to be a calculating mer- the world knowing if all-well, he manner with which he delivers his was not entirely out of danger her- obiter dicta. Assume that he con- self when she said, "Very intri-cenary charm. A shoppy trick to is more than conceited, so drop him. it get love, without giving it Quite If he will not learn-well, that descends to be informative to the cate. That's what he said extent that "it looks like rain." He was at breakfast yesterday morn-different from the true charm of should "larn him” is conscious of no need to indicate ing a very intricate problem" truly generous natures. that he ever read any instructive Somehow one does not realise that Because he is often a poor lover, work on weather signs, as a result such a person eats breakfast, any-the Britisher is apt to despise the

of which he interprets certain phe way. One rather thinks of him as art of love, and because he despises nomema equally visible to you being inflated, blown up. along lines you yourself might do were you aware of them: Nothing of that sort. He presents to you

an independent and original dis- The office blonde described a visi- covery of his own, which requires tor to the "China Mail the other authority or confirmation be- day as the sort of dame who uses yond the honour of his own promul perfume as though it were water gation. It must be true, because and in place of it.

he himself has said it, and it is ne- cessarily important, or he would not have wasted his time and his talent on giving it utterance.

it, he is apt to remain a poor lover. Instead, he escapes into sport, or work, or a

an interest in animals- and puts them on the pedestal where love should be

Now sport is all very well.

A nation must develop health and fitness and sufficient physical guts to be able to defend itself. And grown ups need physical play just children do. Beyond that, it an escape- Golf-addiction is

as

TOO WEAK TO DO HER HOUSEWORK

She Was Being Poisoned-By Constipation

For many years this woman's system was completely out of onder due to chronic constipation. to do her any good,

she found a one way to rid herself of

and her health quickly

this came about:

He

A great saying "I still believe of the worst forms. has so convinced his wife of his that when the Great War comes we Animals are all very well, but the following letter she omniscience that she has become shall move quite a considerable por-human-relationships come first- an admiring if unconvincing echo. tion of our Air Force to Germany surely.

pation, In how

For many years I had stubborn con-

system was being was unable to that I could not

Then

When he pontificates to you in her to stop the flood of Eastern bar And duty is surely best thought of stipation which apparently no remedy presence, say that two and two barism, just as English knights in terms of human relationships, could improv

sleep, make four, another original disjoined the Teutonic knights in stop which, like charity, should begin continually

So many itishers at ever covery of his own, she will squeak ping Genghiz Khan's hordes at the at home.

Mr. C. G. tach exaggerate a sort of confirmatory repetition. gates of Vienna”

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love That They are

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bigamist!

not their fanit, but menfolk, who lack

the ability