1935-10-12 — Page 7

No. 31

China Mail

HOME SUPPLEMENT

HONG KONG, SATURDAY, OCTOBER 12, 1935

Introducing

... Jealousy

Riding For Health

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And Beauty

HIDING IS rapidly becoming

the of the most. popular forms, of exercise: perhaps be cause there are few better ways. of bringing a healthy glow to the checks.

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Autimm is the perfect time to begin, if you are not already horsewoman: the exercise will keep you fit throughout the winter-the stiffness that you feel after your first ride showing that all your mas- eles have been in vigoruas use.

Riding is a splendid way of im proving the deportment and posture in general; it is als an exercise which reduces superfluous weight and tightens up slack muscles, to the general improvement of the figure.

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& bottle of slow, poisen

stood in the medicine closet

of her home, no woman world go there hourly and take spoonful of it.

But, there is another kind of -

· poison, more dreadful in its effects. that thousands of women keep ut. tap and take regularly. It is ther poison called jealousy. And jealousy and insanity are first cyu-

Sax.

One woman 1 knew was not par- ticularly fond of her husband until another woman wasted him. Then she writhed whimpered. foamed with all the symptoms of a dis- ordered mind. She set traps for him, she tried to bribe his office nurse to spy on him, she bored every one she knew with hysterical ootbursts of rage.

When the other woman was re- tioned she became actúally sinister:

You need not be particularly roshe knew it for a fact this Murian

bust to take up riding, but you will soon find your health improving. At a famous Lundum school of rid- ing there are pupils of anything from about four years old to 50% There is nothing like riding for keeping you yeong, and it is a pas-" time that can be delight to you up to almost any age.

Opportunities for "learning rid- ing are available at most boarding and many day school and it is one of the most worthwhile "extras" that parents can allow their child- Ten. When you learn to ride, you also learn patience, initiative, self- confidence, courage and quickness of mind.

Gaining Confidence

How to set about learning to ride? The best thing to do is to take a series of lessons at a good school of riding. Here you will be given a quiet mount with sympathe-" te manners to learners, and an ex- perienced instructor. A covered- in school is advisable for nervous beginners, so that a certain amount of confidence is gained before gu.. ing out on the road or in fields.

A minimum of a dozen lessOTEN would be necessary before you could control a horse on your own, and great patience is necessary at first in order to master the essentials of good riding such as, correst "Seat" and handung of the reins The trouble with many excited, und eager beginners is that they want to get on-tou quickly, and fail to pay sufficient attention to learning those foundations so vital to them if they are to be good riders later

Your riding kit. nowadays need not necessarily be very expensive. Well-cut breeches or jodhpurs are the most important items in addi- tion to good boots. You may like to have a riding jacket, but can. if necessary, back in a neat pull- and wear 2 over without a coat. close-fitting hat or a beret.

cheated at cards, she knew it for a fact that Marian wasn't straight. se knew everything disagreeable that could be imagined about 'Marian. Some one happened to speak of Marian's child.

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"Ha, she's defective, you know!** said the discarded wife, with laugh. The poor little thing! never be normal! The husband was mentioned. **I bear John's wearing corsets and having his face lifted." the jealous wife screamed father than said, with peals laughter.

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And this was a quiet, apparent

never ly pleasant woman who before had shown any signs of the volcano that was ready to burst forth at the first touch of jealousy..

In the old days, when home and- church in£uences took care of chil dren's morals," girls-and jealousy Is rather a feminine characteristic -giris grew up concious that it was a pitfall, and determined to Sght it.

Old-Fashioned

"Look out, my girls writes the father in "Little Women" from a Civil War camp. "I want each one of you to fight her bosom enemy."

It's an old-fashioned phrase; our children wouldn't know what we were talking about if we reminded them to fight their bosom enemies: no one crer has told them that within each one of us lie the powers that can make our lives beautiful. or that can destroy our very souls. Sometimes girls in school are envious of the passing advantages of more fortunate giris.

Often young womeri feel vague professional jealousies.

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Sex jealousy is perhaps the most poignantly painful and destructive of all; it is the only sort of jealousy inen ever seem to feel. It is the tragedy of its agonies that destroys in the man or woman who gives way to it whatever natural attractions he or she may have. and so defeats itself.

It is curable. A jealous woman may emerge from this fiery trial all the stronger and finer for, it, but very few mothers seriously analyse their children's characters in these days, and try to strengthen what is good in them and weed out - what is bad, so that many wives come to the test completely unfitted for what is a real spiritual crisis.”

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A modernistic conception of the "Green-eyed Monster."

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If she holds him he is restless and resentful. If she lets him go her life is too often ruined by the bit-

Ruth, for example, is 33. She- was married nine years ago and has two boys, both in school was always a tride heavy, and shere the disillusionment, the has settled now into something like stockiness; she was always some. she is what unimaginative, and managing this, affair with a com- plete lack of imagination.

Almost Beautiful Walter has fallen in love with the... woman in his office, Jane Deane. Jane is 28, divorced and extremely plain at first view. But hers is one of those faces that presently seem almost beautiful in spite of a homely big mouth. prominent teeth, straight dark hair, sallow skin.

Jane bax magnificent gray black-lashed eyes, a lovely voice and a delightful disposition.

Ruth discovered the affair six months ago; she immediately oni- lapsed. She put up no fight. She lay for days weeping on her bed: her face grew dark with anger and swoller with tears; she would not come to meal. To her little boys she said between sobs that Daddy didn't love them any more; he was in love with Mrs. Deane: he was going away to leave them. Once an extremely pretty woman, Ruth lost all semblance of good looks: she stepped golf; she went nowhere; she put on 17 pounds in weight.

She stubbornly refuses Walter a divorce, and she continues to make his life wretched at home. Every. time he goes out of the house she calls after him spitefully: *All right, go to your Jane!" In short, she has taken the path best cal culated to wreck what might be salvaged in their marriage, and to make Walter dislike ber.

Now, this situation of a husband -perhaps a good and faithful -hus- bard being strongly attracted to another woman is one that many married women have had to face. and one that will recur from time to time in the years to come,

"Society doesn't censure him now as once, it did, and the law, instead of holding him firmly to his mar- riage vows, amiably condones divorce. A few weeks in an am7115-. ing and pleasant Western city and he is free, not responsible any more for the woman and children whom he has been loved

hus. band and father for so many years, - Whatever the woman does in the circumstances, she loses. This is one of the times when she can't win.

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Joneliness, the general disturbance of the whole current of her days. “Our social scheme to-day permits the man to feel himself acting quite honourably when he leaves the woman of whom he is tired and goes to the new love: and his discarded wife is only setting herself against" the current when she protests.

But all the same, she doesn't have to let him go if she does not want to. Nine times out of ten

the smarter thing, the thing that makes for happiness in the end, is not to let him go. Rath may know in her heart that Walter is mak- ing a fool of himself; that what he feels for Jane won't last; tha: Jane couldn't. make him a good wife, or any man a good wife.

Course To Follow Ruth's course if she wants to handle the whole thing intelligently. is to make home pleasanter than ever to be always serene and patient; to bide her time. Her course is to make herself charming. not for Walter, for he won't see her at all for a while, but on general principles.

Her course is to keep herself busy, find work inside the house and out that interests her, thas lifts her a little bit above the narrow circle of home. Ruth at- tiated Walter once against comers;; the most sacred hours of life are those associated with her whether he marries Jane or doesn't,"- the bour is going to come when he sees Ruth in the old light.

And then in a few years we have the very ordinary spectacle of a husband pretending that his pas- sion for Jane was just warm friend- ship, forgetting completely that he asked Ruth to set him free, restored to the home circle and to his wife's affections.

But the wife has to get rid of the last shred of jealousy before she can succeed in this sort. of cam- paign.

The law that sends a fatal germ into onemouth and spares a thou- sand others, that takes away one woman's only child while leaving another woman a safe and happy nursery of half a dozen children, that gives one little sister curly hair and another a talent for the violing that burns one house and leaves its fellow standing, operates in this

matter too.